This is one of those stories where the MC is given a second chance after regressing but li...

Sometimes, trauma is a bitch

Trauma is not easy to get around. It's an extreme struggle.

Just say you don't understand trauma I pray you won't have children if you can't understand what trauma is

Don't worry, I have no plans to have one. And perhaps stop with the ho·li·er-than-thou act when your prayers are no different than curses. Maybe you're serving the wrong god, figures with your username.

While I don't condone THE WAY DKA said it, I do understand what they are trying to convey. What they are saying is that parents need to understand trauma to know what causes it and as a result be able to avoid inflicting it on others.

You can't say that someone who traumatizes their child regularly is a good parent.

This also means that not only will there be a higher chance of not seeing the signs of trauma but you will typically be more apathetic towards those with trauma.

I recommend that you read up more and let to understand trauma more. There are plenty of books and novels on the subject.

Thanks for the recommendation. I know you mean well but never did I mention on the post that those who traumatized their child is a good parent. The MC needed to learn to stand up for herself and make her second life worth it but she was doing the opposite. She was practically wasting her second chance.

And seriously, parents need to understand trauma? Those who are hell bent on inflicting pain on other people will never learn what that word even means. If a person had been causing pain to someone without remorse, then what makes you think they'll stop just because they understood what trauma is. They are doing it because they revel the pain they are inflicting. The MC should have drilled that on her mind to make her tougher but she kept embracing her pain and feeling sorry for herself instead of taking advantage of her second life to the fullest.

She clearly lacks the motivation other MCs who encountered the same fate as hers during their first life. I'm so done with individuals who always needed a knight in shining armor to save them.

Firstly, before anything else: When I said "You can't say that someone who traumatizes their child regularly is a good parent", I said it in a "I know that you couldn't or wouldn't do this" sort of way and not a "you shouldn't do this" accusatory sort of waPy. I have never accused you of anything. I was just interpreting what DKA meant and give you a recommendation.

I wasn't talking about malicious people. They are lost causes. You don't need to be malicious and cruel to traumatize someone. Ignorance does the job just as good.

Imagine a child who is afraid of clowns. Now Imagine that child having parents that love clowns and even decorate their house with clown themed memorabilia and dolls. They don't understand his trauma and think that it's something that he will simply grow out of. Instead though, his fear becomes severe and stays with him well into adulthood. This is what I'm referring to. Situations like this. They don't hate him or want him to suffer. They are just ignorant of the truth.

I understand that you want her to stand up for herself. I do too. But, it's not going to happen overnight. It's something that has to happen gradually. What matters isn't the speed but the fact that she's making progress AT ALL! Even slow progress is still progress.

But that's the point. This IS her second life not her first. Didn't she learn enough not to do the same mistakes? There's no gradually here, when she's making the same mistakes. I get progress and process but none of it was happening when she herself was more focus on her trauma instead of building herself up. Perhaps it was a mistake to even give her that second chance.

Yeah, but you have to understand that people don't just change overnight. Sometimes it takes awhile to even take that first step. I do agree that it's slow but be patient.