DISAPPOINTING!

Lmaooo ur weak stand up no one should have a relationship that has a base of lying or manipulation like it doesn’t matter what it is now it started with impure intentions just bc he’s nice doesn’t erase or rewrite his wrongs and she deserves and has the right to respect herself set boundaries and not stand for anything that hurts her like your thought process is shallow just bc I was treated bad in the past I should accept whatever is thrown my way now like that’s pitiful and pathetic

Shut the fuck up

Implying his changed behavior shouldn't impact any part of this completely is rather short sided...why would anyone change then if they are only ever going to be judged for mistakes they made in the past? I think it isn't fair to either of them to ignore how he has changed and their situation has changed. What her ex did is on an ENTIRELY different level...

My weak stand? Bro, first chill out it's just an opinion on an illegal website, and he made changes for her sake? So that's not creditable? And my whole point was that human relationships of any kind have ups and downs and are hard and sometimes gives you headaches that's how it is and she throws the towel imidiently cause it gets to hard...because of smth she herself belives wasn't a lie like she knows but cause it gets to hard she throws and that's kinda stupid- why try having a relationship if you don't wanna work it out??? Also she made a lot of progress and I thought the author wouldt use this stupid standard drama trope since they have been writing their story pretty solid so it's sad to see how this turned out. And if youuuuuuu so freaking want bad to hear smth bad about the ML I am also annoyed he just freaking left and didt go after her etc. I just didt want to write a goddammn paragraph since it seemed we all were on the same page anyways from reading other comments and comments on previous posts

Like God forbid a girl wants a relationship based off of truth and integrity especially after being in a relationship with a man who was disingenuous like she’s already been betrayed before and nobody which way you slice and dice it. This is another betrayal. Also mind you he knows how shitty her life was bc of that man like what he did to her reputation what he did to her physically mentally emotionally like he literally had to peel her out of her shell he knew the rumors and that was part of the bet and that all just seems disingenuous to be like that doesn’t matter bc he’s nice he knew everything. He knew her hurt and pain yet still approached her with impure intentions and never corrected them nor did he even do a good job at explaining himself so let that man grovel and I think you’re also forgetting that they aren’t in a real relationship they have voiced that they have feelings for each other, but they aren’t together and this is her standing up and protecting herself she’s not folding bc of her feelings or him being a okay person it’s obvious that she recognizes his effort but it’s that it wasn’t sincere and she doesn’t have to deal with that especially when she’s doing what he taught her to do he told her don’t let people mess with you have self-respect stand up for yourself and she set a boundary and mind you he knew that this was wrong and he should talk to her about it because he literally had a stress dream and he still didn’t do anything actions have consequences and he was complicit the whole time now does doing one bad thing make you a bad person that depends but in this case no but this was a really morally bankrupt thing to do to somebody who’s already has such a shattered sense of self and reality and has been hurt and the relationships have ups and downs but you shouldn’t have to suffer and be hurt to be loved and mind you they aren’t together and she’s already been through a humiliating demoralizing dehumanizing traumatic experience. Why would she settle for another one when it’s a contract relationship? Also, I like him as a character. He’s a good person most of the time. But that’s like bare minimum to treat somebody well or to help somebody out when they’re struggling all this is very bare minimum when you care about somebody

Like no one wants to be the butt of the joke they aren’t laughing with her but at her and just be he doesn’t think it was serious doesn’t mean the other person involved don’t it’s like someone knows ur insecurities and then uses it but it like I didn’t mean it in that way you can know that they weren’t trying to hurt you and were just kidding but that doesn’t make it hurt any less understanding doesn’t mean accepting and forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting he’s being held accountable by the standards he taught her

Literally just imagine getting out of an abusive relationship and then you meet a nice guy and fall in love and you find out he originally approached you because of a bet. Forget your omniscient reader's viewpoint and actually put yourself in her shoes

The point is that the response to this is VARIED. People can have all kinds of reactions to this, and not all of it would be to drop the guy immediately. That is all anyone is really saying. Perspective is a broad thing and this isn't a one size fits all situation. Especially again because everyone wants to pretend he has zero say in this and his opinion doesn't matter at all. Again, he is a nice guy who treated her well and is a college kid who made a DUMB joke with his friends. God forbid.

Being held accountable would mean TALKING to him properly, not running away without a word of his own. Accountability would be allowing him the chance to change or make up for it. After a bunch of time and space for her to process? Sure, girl take all the time she needs. But ignoring him because of one mistake in the beginning isn't the big moment of self defense you think it is.

That may be what YOU'RE saying, although it didn't come across that way, but a lot of people aren't giving her any grace for a non-perfect response the way they are doing for him. She's being mean and unfair by not hearing out properly (she listened to him explain himself and found it insufficient), but his lacking response is understandable because he's just a swet college boy who makes mistakes :(
Like she isn't a college girl? He's literally older than her, why is she required to be more mature than him and hear him out more or it's bad writing?
That's what's getting me. The bar to not be seen as annoying is way lower for him than it is for her when you look at the readers' reactions.

Do you see that you’re giving him so much grace but none to her like OK he’s young, but he’s still older than her and he’s a grown man you aren’t allowing her to have any room for imperfection while saying he’s just a boy like your opinion is rooted in misogyny. None of this is her fault but you’re putting the blame on her. Mind you in the conversation he did not explain himself. He doesn’t even really try to go after her. Do anything he’s just like well. Her feelings are hurt. Send a text leave a voicemail leave letters you could do so much but he’s just like oh whoa is means I’m so busy like he fucked up she doesn’t owe him anything and no he doesn’t get a say if she doesn’t want to be with him like that’s her right like he fucked up womp womp people make mistakes but that doesn’t mean bc it wasn’t on purpose doesn’t make it hurt any less or hide the intent behind it like she has every right to not wanna do that to protect yourself to stand up for herself to implement what he taught her. She’s setting boundaries having self-respect and love you just want them to be together because he’s nice. Nice isn’t everything. Your making excuses to validate his behavior when he himself knows he was wrong and he fucked up and deserves it he fumbled it on him

Can you see how much you contradict yourself? You’re like oh it’s perspective all of these things and then you’re like oh but I want it to be this way. You wanted to fit in this nice clean box and that’s not how it works. Especially with feelings and emotions involved she has the right to feel betrayed and manipulated. She has the right to not want to be involved in a situation that hurt her. If something does not serve you you have every single right to remove yourself. And accountability isn’t talking. Why would accountability equal explanation accountability is I understand my actions have consequences and I have to take responsibility for that accountability is saying yeah hey I know I fucked up and you have every right to feel the way you do not to force a conversation because your feelings are hurt and she has every right to take time in space. Her feelings were the ones who were hurt. His feelings got hurt because of his own actions. This is his repercussion. This is his ramifications. It doesn’t matter if it’s one mistake it’s how it makes her feel. It’s how it could push her right back to where she was before and she doesn’t wanna do that. You are like so on his side because he’s a nice guy that you were trying to justify and validate and make it minuscule because you feel. But it’s not about him or you it’s about how she feels. She doesn’t have to allow anything. She doesn’t owe him anything. She owes her herself after putting herself through all of these things she owes it to herself to protect herself. And it really is a big thing to know that somebody approached you with impure or ill intent knowing everything that you’ve been through and it’s basically playing you until they seen. Oh this is a good person. Maybe I shouldn’t humiliate them dehumanize them and make them a joke. Maybe I shouldn’t play with their lives in emotions and manipulate them for my amusement and the entertainment of my friends. Oh person doesn’t deserve to be treated like that. But that’s all decisions he made on his own. And then imagine you’re like oh I think this person is so sincere so genuine so real so honest so upfront to figure out that his friends have been laughing at you the whole time because of something he did and even if he doesn’t feel that way anymore, this whole time behind your back his friends have been wagering on your love, life and emotions

Like I don’t see why you think he has the right to a conversation I don’t see why you think she’s unreasonable because she brought it up to him and he could not explain himself properly he’s not even really fighting for her and there is no way to justify or defend what he did I don’t see why he deserves so much grace but she doesn’t. I don’t see why he’s just a boy but she’s not just a girl. And she doesn’t know him anything she didn’t even have to bring up the conversation she could’ve just called told him she could’ve moved out, but she talked to him and the conversation didn’t go well and she doesn’t owe him anything. It was a contractual relationship. Yes they had feelings for each other but how do I still have feelings for somebody when I know that they were tricking me that they were deceiving me how come it’s oh he was such a good person, but she’s been a good person to him too. She’s been there for him. She’s tried to change and all well. Going through everything emotionally physically and living through that trauma. She’s still opened up her heart to him and it’s OK for her to wanna close it like I feel especially in this day and age we should be proud of a woman for breaking cycles and not living in her trauma and not accepting anything less than she deserves women don’t have to settle and not every right cancels out of wrong she doesn’t have to forgive him. She doesn’t have to accept him. She doesn’t have to do any of that. She told him I understand, but I choose to end this to protect myself and to preserve whatever feelings I had towards you before and it’s crazy that you want her to reward bare minimum treatment of somebody you care about weather, the relationship is romantic platonic, or familial you should be a good person. You shouldn’t do things like make somebody who’s already having a hard time a joke she deserves true apology she deserves growling, she deserves him to recognize and admit to his wrongs and yeah, he could deserve redemption, but she doesn’t have to give that to him and I hope you know that this trope is literally done before she’s all that one of the highest gross rom com of the 90s like look into the source material

First of all I think you are taking this a bit personal...just seeing the amount of your comments : ) and as I said I just think it is sad to see she isn't really confronting him even though she started confronting the problems in her life (what I think is a good thing) and she learned from her past miserable relationship...also these are not reall people...they are all made up by one person, the author. And I think it is sad to see that the author used a generic "misunderstanding" trope to "spice" up the story. I liked that the author went the unconventional route with those two and then they do this...that was all I am sorry you have misunderstood next time I should write a whole essay I guess ╮(￣▽￣)╭