If ian was a top. He would be considered as red flag/ even black flag. People who says "the tops are the one who can't keep their hand to themselves" would be singing a different song then. These blind bottom defenders are something else. It is because 90% of bl watchers are women (including me) so they subconsciously considers a bottom with a woman. Hence, the defence. I don't understand, if you think there is nothing wrong if a bottom is a slut, why the same people get upset if it is a top who is a slut? I don't hate ian, to make things clear. I am really happy that he is happy. But it also can't be denied that he was hoping between the two before settling down with one. That is a major red flag (atleast for me).
If ian was a top. He would be considered as red flag/ even black flag. People who says "the tops are the one who can't keep their hand to themselves" would be singing a different song then. These blind bottom defenders are something else. It is because 90% of bl watchers are women (including me) so they subconsciously considers a bottom with a woman. Hence, the defence. I don't understand, if you think there is nothing wrong if a bottom is a slut, why the same people get upset if it is a top who is a slut? I don't hate ian, to make things clear. I am really happy that he is happy. But it also can't be denied that he was hoping between the two before settling down with one. That is a major red flag (atleast for me).