Kinks only exist within the boundary of consent. Without it, it is SA, plain and simple. No matter how casual their relationship, it does not decrease the threshold for consent.
Stories are made for commentary, critique and conversation. Why else would there possibly be a comment section for.
While yes I do agree with you, thats in real life while exploring it with real people. I think "exploration of kinks" here applies to the author and it's readers. Getting up in arms about this makes me think people would have a heart attack in the somno tag on Tumblr, where fantasy is not the same as irl practice.
But like yeah this doesnt exist in a vacuum like bl has a terrible history of romanticizing absence of consent. Do think its silly to act suprised by it in a story where the bottom starts off violating it by intentionally masturbating in front of a window for a neighbor to see lol. If we thought it was haha quirky then why is it suddenly less fun when the top violates consent too...much to think about.
but then SA has started with Ideum being a window creep. imagine a person who is not into that, being sexually assaulted each time he looks out of the window? because exhibitionism IS sexual assault, and I'm not making this up. look it up if you don't believe that it is classified as so
i am 100% not debating that this was SA. i was more saying that this bl is fantasy and the exploration of kinks is applied. at the beginning of this bl the mc masturbated in front of someone he did not know, there was no consent involved either. yet people continue to say “poor baby ideum”. what ideum did was SA too but people brushed that off.
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What Ideum did falls under public indecency/obscenity. A crime against public order and community morals, not a violent crime against someone’s physical body. Equating window exhibitionism to be at the same level as actual r*pe is a severe false equivalency designed to inflate Ideum’s guilt and downplay Jaeyi’s r*pe.
Even if you look at advocacy frameworks that categorize non-contact exhibitionism under the broad umbrella of sexual harm, there is still a massive legal, structural, and psychological divide between a non-contact offense and a physical, non consensual violation of a sleeping person's body. One does not excuse or balance out the other.
My “getting up in arms about this” is inherently due to the fact that what this chapter was communicating and how it was communicated did not align. It was depicting a shift in their relationship where the first person Ideum felt seen and respected by, is stripping away his autonomy. Yet the lens chosen by the author to do this was your cliche bl “hot non-con but it’s okay” smut. And it’s evident because half the comment section isn’t even getting the point of this chapter and are commenting “idc what yall say, this is hot”. It’s frustrating when the writing in this initially had me expecting something a lot more thoughtful and considered for such heavy and complex themes, rather than just a smut sell out.
it’s a dabble into kinks like somnophilia along with them having sex in public AND let’s not forget this bl started with ideum masturbating in front of jaeyi with out knowing him at all … obvs what jaeyi did was wrong and as partners now they should talk about it!
also they are not dating rn, they are sex partners who both have a long way to go in communicating but some of yall in the comments are acting 10 yrs old in the way where you are viewing these grown ass men as cute little babies who could do no wrong and make no mistakes…yall know this is a story right?? they are both characters who will continue to grow.