I get it. But I also think it's alright to point out the not-so-good decisions the characters make (i.e. forced sex). I haven't read much comments, but from the way I see it, even the exhibitionism ideum did at the start was framed as a flaw stemming from wanting connection and well, desperation. It's frustrating, but these flaws make the story interesting; makes you wanna know how they'll develop their relationship. But just because they're fuck buddies, jaeyi is still in the wrong for forcing an intimate situation with ideum in this chap, especially that although not fully, jaeyi knows he's frustrated and that he's taking it out on ideum. On top of that, jaeyi has some idea about ideum's tendency to be anxious, so, he has a clue of what it might mean for ideum (possibly induces more anxiety). Hence, rather than leading ideum on, i think jaeyi complicates the "relationship" by giving mixed signals. Ngl, it's getting interesting tho. Though it's bare minimum to communicate, jaeyi talking abt his brother proves he's not all bad, just not good at handling the situation.
The double standard for top and bottom is wild ngl, both are adult men stop treating ideum as if he's a baby, he's the older one, and he's an active participant in this friends with benefits relationship, y'all treating jaeyi as if he's leading ideum on when he hasn't done anything wrong, he's also human, he has flaws and is allowed to get frustrated sometimes, I'm actually pleasantly surprised this manhwa didn't fall into the miscommunication trope, the top is doing his best despite his own issues so cut his some slack