It is said that communication is the key, which is basically the case in a normal resp. healthy relationship, no question. But what if you talk to each other regularly, but don't really understand each other due to the respective disorder (keywords: perception and coping mechanism)? Then communication only leads to more and possibly more serious conflicts. Unfortunately I have to say from experience that this cannot be achieved with "simple" communication. That would be really nice if it were that simple. And exactly THIS is presented quite well in this story. This terrible irrationality! Which can strike anytime and anywhere without warning and destroys any created efforts. A relationship of this kind, as they both have, is of course even more fragile, because the two don't really know each other well enough and aren't familiar with each other - yet. I think in such relationships, of course, communication is an important point, but first and foremost TRUST. Deeply felt basic trust! Because if that is given and consolidated, then both sides can be as irrational in their behaviour and in their communication as they might be without causing (irreparable) damage. For one KNOWS that what is said or done is not meant as it appears at that moment. Or as personally. One has a deep trust in the basic character of the partner. My personal experience is that THAT is the most elementary thing in a relationship under such conditions. And, as I have mentioned before, of course the appropriate accompaniment and support from a trained environment. First and foremost by the respective therapists. The latter is damn important. That makes a lot of things a little easier and it helps to understand a good part.
And under appropriate aspects I ask myself whether the two of them are actually connected by a dramatic event or whether their coexistence is meant to be the actual drama. That would be a refreshingly different and certainly interesting approach for this genre. In other words, it's more of a character study than just a sad and dramatic story.
PS: my little flood of words should be neither an ICD- nor any other cock comparison in terms of relationships whatsoever, but rather a personal point of view or insight into (some of) the problems of an affected person with another.
It is said that communication is the key, which is basically the case in a normal resp. healthy relationship, no question. But what if you talk to each other regularly, but don't really understand each other due to the respective disorder (keywords: perception and coping mechanism)? Then communication only leads to more and possibly more serious conflicts. Unfortunately I have to say from experience that this cannot be achieved with "simple" communication. That would be really nice if it were that simple. And exactly THIS is presented quite well in this story. This terrible irrationality! Which can strike anytime and anywhere without warning and destroys any created efforts. A relationship of this kind, as they both have, is of course even more fragile, because the two don't really know each other well enough and aren't familiar with each other - yet. I think in such relationships, of course, communication is an important point, but first and foremost TRUST. Deeply felt basic trust! Because if that is given and consolidated, then both sides can be as irrational in their behaviour and in their communication as they might be without causing (irreparable) damage. For one KNOWS that what is said or done is not meant as it appears at that moment. Or as personally. One has a deep trust in the basic character of the partner. My personal experience is that THAT is the most elementary thing in a relationship under such conditions. And, as I have mentioned before, of course the appropriate accompaniment and support from a trained environment. First and foremost by the respective therapists. The latter is damn important. That makes a lot of things a little easier and it helps to understand a good part.
And under appropriate aspects I ask myself whether the two of them are actually connected by a dramatic event or whether their coexistence is meant to be the actual drama. That would be a refreshingly different and certainly interesting approach for this genre. In other words, it's more of a character study than just a sad and dramatic story.
PS: my little flood of words should be neither an ICD- nor any other cock comparison in terms of relationships whatsoever, but rather a personal point of view or insight into (some of) the problems of an affected person with another.