Amen
I would dissagree if this were another comic, but here you are completly right. Like how the hell should she communicate more? The ml is just using her then tossing her asside when she is not needed to relieve his boredom. He is selfish and is convinced that fl is only his friend cos of his power when she is not controlled by him. She did so many things for him yet he do not open up and just let her missunderstand everything, so why should the fl be the one at fault, when she tries but is ignored and made to jump around according to the youngmasters whishes? The ml s story is sad, but there were so many opportunity for him to change and open up but did not. I am dissapointed in him. The minimal changes in him are all thanks to fl s hard work of not screaming at ml for him being a demon instead of a friend, so others should stop hating on fl. She is the reason the ml is not a complete psychopath yet.(￣∇￣")
Fr and are people forgetting what he was originally planning to do to her? Like wth
You made a point.
In addition, I noticed that in fiction it always the girl that takes the role of communication and emotional understanding. It’s always her who has to put extra-effort.
Emotional labor is a real thing that women are expected to bear and even if they are not, they end doing this job anyway because otherwise couples would fall apart and interpersonal relationships would be a mess. Here a def : « the mental activity required to manage or perform the routine tasks necessary for maintaining relationships and ensuring smooth running of a household or process, typically regarded as an unacknowledged burden ». It’s valid for parters, friends and for the professional world.
Concrete examples : Emotional labor often refers to pulling out the feelings of your partner. They may walk around brooding or sulking or upset. They wait for you to try to guess what you can do to make it better, without actually communicating
Back to the subject at hand, I am TIRED of this trope where the female lead has to figure out the male lead because you know they are cold, mysterious and deeply hurting. And this, while he keeps being a douche-bag to her. Most of all I dislike that this process is romanticized. Why the FL basically acting as a psy for an almost stranger is seen as romantic?
Male leads should take the first step at least because the world doesn’t surround around them.
Thank you for coming to my ted talk ٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶
Here we go again with people spouting their fairytale b.s. that a victim has to trust her abuser and do more of the emotional labour than a jackass like this. Oh did you guys think communication is completely neutral? Why do you THINK then that abusers both in real life and fiction can so easily push the blame onto their victim by claiming that they are in the wrong for not telling them things properly? The abuser gaslights (yes, Edgar is gaslighting her peeps) their victim and the victim is always in the wrong no matter what they say and, actually, even if they don't say anything. This forces the victim into the even more untenable position of navigating the temperament of the other party (or employing more emotional labour) while the abuser can just say whatever tf they want in so called 'communication'. And the fact that people are so eager to show how mature (read: childish) they are by claiming that both victims and abusers are in the wrong if they don't talk just reinforces this point. Ew.
Again downvote only if you think abusers should never have to be responsible for anything. Bnaodfba s.