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He really is (￣∇￣")
Almost as selfish as he was from the biggining... Not much has changed

Yeah, this already became lame.

He's 17. It's specifically because he's 17 that people are having such deliberations. Do you remember being 17? I remember having reasoning skills and i wasn't put off at the thought of being with an adult. As a matter of fact, i remember thinking specifically that i'd be willing to be with an older guy as long as i found him attractive. What matters is the older guy's motivations, if he's a predator then obviously that's bad, but falling in love happens when you spend time with people and can't be helped.

Yes I remember being 17, very independant for my age so I felt like I knew it all, and adults like this piece of work who tried to date me were NOT good people and thank God I did not date them. And AT LEAST they were not used to flirting with minors. Seunghee has no perspective bcs he has no experience but this dude does and he still decided to spend his time with a minor when he could literally date ANYONE ELSE his age (but I guess no one would want him).
This dude ONLY seeks minors. Its disgusting. And he even sexually harrassed a MIDDLE SCHOOLER. Who cares if he's in love. He clearly hasnt reflected on his past since hes still after a young boy

Like...how old is he? 30? If Im right its a big gap regardless and even if Seunghee was 20 I would still have my doubts about him. Because good guys do not limit themselves to younger people.

It's a preference, he factually isn't a pedophile as that is a mental disorder, which he hasn't been shown to have. He's able to control himself as shown when he turns spending time with Seunghee down and tells him to go make friends. If it's a preference, it can be changed.

There is also the fact that since he likes only minors -a pedophile- he will leave seunghee when he grows up for a minor.
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Oh, i'm definitely not arguing that he's a good guy, just that, if he has feelings, they could make a good couple and he could be good to Seunghee.

He hasnt been shown to have???? He sent a dick pic to a kid and spends his time talking to minors how is that not proof that he has serious mental issues???
Who in their right mind would do that? Can YOU imagine sending a picture of your genitals to a middle schooler? Or even, idk how old you are, talking to countless teens on the Internet?

How do "feelings" make for a good relationship?
Seunghee would just waste his best years on an immature ephebophile who probably wants young boys because hes not capable of having real relationships with people his age...

No, i can't to someone as young as Seungtaek was at the time. I'm 23 btw. My personal strike zone is 18+, but if a 17 yr old and i fell in love, i'd wait for him. Nothing below 17 though... Too creepy for me... DX

What? If he had feelings for Seunghee why would he look for others?

So seunghee should essentially be a human shield so this guy doesn't go creeping on other kids...ok. (nevermind that once seunghee grows up he'll lose interest in him too...since all he's interested in is their youth and vulnerability)

No, the idea is that the feelings are mutual. I've repeated this so much. :‘^(

Yeah, I've seen you saying that, but it's been shown that this dude isn't interested in a committed, serious relationship with seunghee. And even if he was...it wouldn't make his interest or the relationship any better. Still "ephebophilia" if we want to be strict with our terminology. Still bad and wrong and blond guy should probably be on a registered sex offender list with an ankle monitor given that he's a repeat criminal if he isn't already.

In a year it Wouldn't even be a problem over here. Idk, it doesn't seem so black and white to me. It also hasn't really shown that he's not in love with Seunghee, it's just shown what we always knew, that he was/maybe is a predator.

If it wouldn't matter in a year, why does he go after people with whom age will matter? Why does he go after teens when he could meet people his own age? It doesn't matter if he's in love with Seunghee, what he's doing is wrong. It's not maybe he's a predator, he is a predator. How many teens has he harassed this way? It wasn't love with them. I had forgotten about this, but he made sexual advances towards Seungteak thinking he was Seunghee. They weren't "in love" yet then so basically he tried to hook up with a teen who he'd only chatted with online a little. So regardless of 13 being the legal age in Korea, since Seungteak didn't consent that was sexual harassment. Same for the unsolicited dick pick to the middle schooler. That kid definitely didn't consent, so again sexual harassment. I understand that you don't want to see this as black and white, however, in all the shades of grey this relationship could have fallen under, unfortunately, it is pretty freaking dark.

You aren't understanding what i'm saying and i'm not interested in correcting all the misunderstandings in that response. All i'll say is that it looks like you ONLY read my last response and answered according to that.

I read everything. I agreed with the other responses and didn't want to just say the same thing over again. If I'm misunderstanding you, then it seems like everyone else is also misunderstanding you. Maybe you're not communicating you position clearly, or maybe you are and nobody agrees with you. From what I've understood your position seems to be that he's not that bad. That because he goes after teens he's not a full blown pedophile. That in S Korea his actions towards Seunghee aren't illegal. Also, because he says he has feelings for Seunghee, he could possibly change. If he started a relationship with Seunghee, he could stop targeting, grooming, and harassing vulnerable people.
I don't agree with this. These are a lot of ifs. There is no reason to believe that he will change. Further, whatever love grew between them would be tainted by his immoral machinations in the beginning. Even though his actions with Seunghee aren't illegal in S Korea his other past actions are illegal there and he should be held accountable for them. His actions have been shown to directly hurt young impressionable people.
These rules are created to protect young people from those that would try to use and manipulate them emotionally, physically, or sexually. I get that you want to see it as a grey area where he's not the worst type of abuser in the world, but that doesn't mean he's not abusing these teens. Somebody with a pattern of sexually harassing and manipulating teenagers isn't going to stop by entering into a relationship with one. Even if he stops with others, it's not right to use Seunghee as a shield or as a tool for him to learn to stop taking advantage of people. Seunghee can do wayyyyyy better than this guy. Nobody should want to see them in a relationship. If you really want blond guy to get better, you should be rooting for him to be in therapy.

No, that's not what i'm saying at all. I don't want to continue talking with you. Bye.

Okay I wanted to hear you out, but if you don't want to explain what you think about this anymore that's fine. If you don't believe what I thought you did, then that's probably a really good thing. I'm glad to know that you are not a defender of sexual assault, or harassment, or the targeting of minors (I think ╮(￣▽￣)╭). Have a nice life.

You too.

I think rather than seriously dating him he's more of indulginghim almost like a mother or a father telling their child that they'll marry them if the child ask the entire relationship seems more fantastical and indulgent than anything else

Doesnt make things better tbh

If we're gonna be like this, then teachers shouldn't date students too.

Damn right they shouldnt