Funny thing is I really think J loves H so much, but he just don't know HOW to love him, just like an horny and timid teenager. He is an adult though, so H just can't understand anything he does, he thinks he is simply playing and J can't see he's humiliating H... He can't see that because in his mind he loves him and he is only a bit capricious, so that's ok. When H tries to speak for himself or tries to go to someone else, J is confused or even hurt. This is sad, really. They are stuck. They should talk..oh, wait, this is just the same old problem..MISCOMMUNICATION!!!
not knowing how to truly express his love is not an excuse for his behaviour, he's not the only person in this relationship and everything has to go according to how he acts, his actions are making haesoo feel so depressed and helpless so he doesn't have to wait for him and stick by him just because he doesn't know how to express his love it doesn't make anything better....even if they talk ,the harm is already done.
Sorry but did I write that could be an excuse? Because I don't think I did. XD
Anyway I do think J is implying that doing it with H is like tell I love you to him..if I got it right J also hasn't any other partner for sex, meanwhile H is doing that (probably trying to free himself or trying to prove him or J he is not the one)
In this kind of situation I don't think is clever to search for a victim or someone to blame, because this situation was brought by the two of them. A relationship is about two person and has a circular motion, like psychology tell us
In life, as in this manga, people can't find happiness all in the same moment, and in situations like that one or two "have" to suffer in the present time. As you can see from the kiss chap, or the first one, Nao suspects about the two, and Izumi either suspected his friend Eiji had feelings for her or she had feelings for him (because of how she's behaved in the kiss chap too). I think in life when you try not to see or run away, things are gonna cone back. So, I'm not saying it's Nao fault, but ... You know... Nao may be suffering, but Eiji also did and does suffer.. And Eiji was in love with Izumi waaay before Nao, si he is really torture for him.
What the hell with the "we can't became women, at the end!" OF COURSE THEY CAN!! CMON!! Transgender is a reality!!!
I'm not talking about that, I'm talking about saying to a woman that she can't be a woman!! Suicide rate can ne high and I even know people coming back, bit of you really feels like a woman then nobody should tell you you can't be a woman in the end. Hormones, voice training, surgery...I saw so many trans women more woman-looking than me!! I'm not saying the success rate is 100%, but I hate when society makes one think they can't be what try already are inside!!
No, please, do things YOUR way, H. Because that is safest in a relationship