Your resident Bisexual's Questions (5)

maybe youre aroace

It’s ok to not have a defined sexuality. Also sexuality is more dependent on how you feel about people irl. Cuz with stories it could also depend on other factors.

That is something you can figure out yourself with time ; please don't be anxious about it (easy to say I know I know). You can take your time and notice things as they come ; oh I did find them cute/pretty, they are good looking... I did like this experience/I didn't... Actually it's normal not to know. It's actually healthy ?? You're not sure about what you are and trying to put yourself in a box. To discover your preferences and yourself is a process (everyone experiences it !). I'm taking myself as an example : am I bisexual ? Biromantic ? demi, asexual, aromantic ?? I actually don't know... I was pretty anxious as wall about it but now, I'm like : I'll figure it out ? I'll experience things and I will live things that will bring aspects of myself I didn't know about. As for label, I go as Queer or bisexual because it's easier, but most of the time I say that I don't know. So maybe you can try to give yourself the space to notice, to change and to discover yourself without a duty to know now. But I get that its difficult in a society (actually I don't know where you're from but let's say the globalized culture) that is centered around/valorizes romantic relationships and sex.
As for stories, it's also normal to have different tastes than with irl people ; a story made by someone which carries representations and wants to conveys a specific thing is bound to be different than reality. For example, the way it is narrated influences a lot the story : rape can be romanticized while it's absolutely like that not irl. Women can be depicted as shallow and not as well constructed as men, or that a reason female readers like BL a lot is because there is a balanced power dynamic between the two main protagonists, what I mean is there is no power difference based on gender like irl. SO what I mean is that reading is not the same as living.
More practically, another thing that helped me was reading, hearing, talking with people who had similar experiences.
I'm sorry for the long post I hope it helped

Don’t put pressure on yourself.
There really isn’t a certain age when we are supposed to lose our virginity or figure out who we have been attracted to.
Maybe you can start by looking into some sexual orientations, and see which one resonates most with you. Speaking to people in the LGBTQ+ community will be really helpful.
I’m pan, always had an attraction to all sexes, but it took me a long time to recognize it as attraction.

Take your time, you can change your orientation as time goes on and you get more experience.

You don’t have to always have to know. But its something you have to figure out on your own.
Good luck (づ￣ ³￣)づ

You are just insecure. That's it. That's all. Move on. Have something else to worry about.

Undermining someone’s worries only increases insecurities. Don’t reply if you have nothing valuable to add.

What I said it is fact. They are just insecure. I feel the same as them. The only difference with them and me is that I don't label this feeling. It's just literary preference. Everything does not need to be dramatized : some stuffs are as simple as they are. Move on. It's just 2D reading. They don't even look like actual humans most of the time.

Your reply brings no value there. You are just b1tching me because you disagree with my statement. Not all feelings are valid. I am not going to confirm their speculations when they are obviously far-fetched. They wanted an answer : I gave them a big flat NO using more words than needed.

If you want opinion from random strangers about something as personal as your sexuality with such general description regarding fictional characters, you gotta get a reality check. It's an insecurity. Even your bf would be skeptical enjoying BL, even though he were to watch it with you. Just move on. If you overthink it, it becomes an issue.

Imagine questioning your sexuality over 2D characters instead of actual humans. Come on! It's the brain playing trick on you as it is always making quick and most often irrational association for the sake of making them.

I do think everyday that jumping over the windows of my work wouldn't be too bad. I am not suicidal, but those BIG and WIDE windows are tempting. I read stories about defenestration. I don't really want to jump from there, but my brain is always associating the fascination I have for those stories with the peculiarity of the windows. Making those not make me suicid@l. It sure creates an insecurity when I give more meaning that it shouldn't. In fact, it just my brain making constant associations; the conscious human filters "what is worth dwelling about" and what is not.

No you degenerate fuck am highly intelligent individual with more self worth then you will ever have. Excuse my language, I usually don't speak like this to people but I was trying to speak in a way a premitive hater like you would understand. You could have just scrolled but seeing as you have nothing better do with your life you choose to attack me. I wonder what my response was going to be

I can never feel the same as you, stop projecting. Am confused and seeking opinions of people of different people, and how does this even amount to insecurity??? Has the meaning of the word changed or maybe you lack basic human compression???

They’re definitely projecting their feelings on you. Didn’t even bother reading their crap reply lol. Good for you for exploring your self-identity.

I am not a hater. Stop projecting.

If you have highly sensitive question to random stranger here instead of talking with people who actually know you, you gotta get misleading and most likely disapointing answer. Instead of getting mad at me, see the big picture. I am not saying anything wrong, I am just not surgocoating facts for you.

Exactly! Move on!

Tysm I'll take my time

Maybe let me do more research on what asexual actually means. . maybe that's what defines me

Thank you so much still a little confused but it's put somethings into perspective

u may have to use gloves & then piercing specific tweezers to hold the jewelry down to twist it back on,, they sell them on amazon but tbh that’s the best i got cus idk wtf to do w mine either LOL

LOL does it have a screw or is it threadless?

Screw

Well… gl girl gloves should help, get close to the mirror n be steady. Maybe u can get someone to help you

you have to twist it back on I think clockwise tightens it

Hi I’m a professional piercer so first of all if your septum is still fresh amma need u to go wash your hands and wear gloves if u dont got them its fine just make sure your hand isn’t shaking and sweaty cuz it wont help, slightly move your piercing jewelries to the opposite direction of of the fallen ball grab the ball and put the hole inside the jewelry and slightly press and twist clockwise till u feel the ball grabbing on the jewelry and done
About the size ,it should be a size of 16g or 18 g it shouldn’t be too big so it wouldn’t apply any heaviness on your nose (16g is a size of a round 1.2mm or a size of your index nail it’s small)

Tysm I love this site

Guideverse is like those action manhwa with systems and dungeons n shit, but it has an added element for romance. Basically there are guides that have like special abilities or whatever that help calm down the espers (not always called that, but people with powers) and they usually do it through a lot of intimate physical contant, which eventually leads to romance. It's not a bad setting tbh, but a lot of them are toxic
And idk how many verses there are, but there's also dom/subverse which I personally hate because it feels like even more of a set up to excuse rape than omegaverse is. There's the doms that can command the subs and subs basically HAVE to listen to whatever the dom tells them to do.

im gonna explain so simply
esper has power. esper uses too much power. esper needs to calm down and regulate their emotions and powers. esper cannot do it on their own, and can self destruct or go crazy and hurt others. guide comes in. guide can, almost always with physical touch, calm down the espers. but they need to have good compatibility or else the guides will become sick from the power imbalance and the espers will usually feel pain. espers CANNOT live with guides, and will almost always have specific guide given to them at some point. because of espers need for guides, they are usually very possesive. there are things like imprinting to where the esper can only receive guiding from THEIR guide and vice versa and its kinda sad if their guide dies or if their esper dies

Just like omegaverse, guideverse rules will vary from story to story. In general, guideverse will have two special types of people: espers and guides. Espers have special supernatural powers to fight dungeons, monsters, etc. Using these powers can have negative effects on the espers' bodies. If they don't keep it under control, they can go berserk and cause enormous damage. In some stories, espers will literally explode from the uncontrolled power inside themselves.

Guides help alleviate the negative effects and keep espers from going crazy. This is usually done through physical touch. The more physical contact, the better the "healing". Compatibility is also important. Guides need to be compatible with an esper for effective healing. If an esper cannot find a compatible guide, then it's just a matter of time until they lose control.

From that you can see that guideverse is similar to omegaverse in that there's a "soul mate" aspect to it. Espers need that one special guide that will save them and alphas and omegas have true mate bonds. Other than that, guideverse is a completely different genre and tends to be more action, sci-fi oriented.

Ttsm I was really confused

Thanks everything makes so much sense now

Thanks, and definitely staying away from what ever the domverse is for now sounds way too toxic

ouhhh this is a good one, everyone from even if you dont love me!! (50/50 for jiwook)

https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/gift_ichinose_yuma/ have you read this? (I have a lot more tbh!!!)

Dreadful Night (Yaoi) is new and it is reaaaally good, is very similar to what you described

Id say 'Payback' has some amazing tension and storyline though it gives us crumbs of smut, and a throw away rec is 'What's with this strange dream?!'

Not yet but definitely will now

You had me at amazing tension

Tysm

https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/red_theatre/

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