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Look at this point I know I’m doing it to myself by choosing to keep reading, I know this is absolutely a grain-of-salt level of unserious fiction, but I SCREAMED at that oxygen saturation… like I don’t know if you guys understand, 85% is INSANE.

I know I know, not worth getting worked up over a dumb comic. But all I wanted was at LEAST an acknowledgment that Aiden was thinking only of his own stupid hurt pride and possessiveness, and it literally put Seowon in danger…… Aiden crying isn’t Aiden apologizing. If anything he doubles down when Seowon brings it up!! Well you were holding some guy’s hand, of course I acted like a douche and forcibly made out with someone who has an 85% OXYGEN SATURATION LEVEL…

I’ve tended end-of-life-care patients in their 80’s and 90’s and have NEVER measured such a low percentage?! I know they said Seowon’s baseline is already low, but guys 92% is considered dangerously low, so 85%??? That his baseline is low is why he requires constant monitoring, because any lower could literally kill him???

Anyway. Sorry I just couldn’t BELIEVE that number lololol. Maybe emergency responders can speak on this more informatively, idk. Because that is an absolute crisis situation like jfc…

Listen I know Arima was putting what he thought his man wanted over his own health, and I get that it ended up worrying both the kid and the dad.

But does anyone else agree that Mitzuki absolutely should never have told Ayumo that eating his carrots would make his mom not sick???

The INSTANT bro said that shit, I was like oh no, I know parents do this and I know the kid is too young to understand much… but saying something like that gives a child the impression they are somehow RESPONSIBLE for their parents’ wellbeing! I could see right away how this could easily end up with Ayumo thinking any problems Arima has was his fault.

Kids have a hard time with some foods, and adults often try threats of some kind or other to get them to eat what they don’t like. Threats don’t work on three year olds - they’re too young to know how to behave to avoid the consequences. All it does it make them feel bad when they inevitably fail…

Telling a three year old that their sick parent’s health is dependent on that three year old’s behavior IS a threat. It wasn’t meant to be, but intention doesn’t change that.

In my opinion, that baby suffered because of the DAD more than the mom!! HE was the one who put it in the poor kid’s head that he had any control over his mom’s condition. Arima on the other hand consistently said that he would be ultimately okay even if he got sick sometimes. He never made it seem like he’ll only be okay depending on a baby’s actions…

So it kinda bothers me that the story frames it at the end like it’s exclusively on Arima when Ayumo sobs that it’s his fault mommy is sick. Much as Mitzuki is a good guy especially as far as manga seme’s go, in my mind, he’s the one who went and told a tiny child something that could only set him up for upset! I was hoping they’d all have a conversation or something, but instead Mitzuki used Ayumo’s breakdown to further press Arima to stop taking the experimental fertility medicine.

Don’t get me wrong, I do think Arima was so caught up in what he thought Mitzuki would want that he wasn’t listening to what Mitzuki outright said he wanted. And I think he was putting a significant burden on Mitzuki, when Mitzuki clearly was very upset by the effects of the drug, but was willing to go along with Arima’s wishes.

I just thought that whole carrots debacle was largely because of what Mitzuki went and said, but the narrative puts no responsibility on him for doing that, instead making it all on Arima for choosing to get sick — like imagine if it wasn’t a medicine he was choosing to take and it was happening naturally! Ayumo would still think it was his fault because he was told his actions would influence the outcome!!

I’m just saying, man… anyway otherwise very cute and mostly wholesome.

I kinda like this one as far as misunderstanding-based drama goes…

Really it isn’t a misunderstanding on both sides, it’s fully the seme jumping to conclusions because he just hadn’t been very challenged in his life, had little exposure to a lot of adult things as a youth, and like many young people was arrogant about his own ability to perceive a situation.

Arguably, regardless of the fact that he was young and mistaken, the seme’s actions are simply unforgivable, full stop. Jury’s out on whether he even deserves a second chance.

But I like the idea portrayed in this story that this man’s horrible mistakes take a PHYSICAL toll on him. He endures devastating physical discomfort, for YEARS… and it’s 100% his own fault.

From the uke’s side of things, he isn’t obligated at all to reconcile. None of it was his fault. And it being a misunderstanding doesn’t change the results.

The seme, however, has no choice — his physical ailment it turns out DEPENDS on his redemption in the eyes of the one he hurt most! It’s his only path toward healing in every sense. And for years, he didn’t even KNOW that this was the answer all along.

I guess I like that it kinda literalizes the consequences of hurting someone else. Even before he realized the extent of his mistake, and sees himself as innocent, the seme still suffers greatly. His life is deeply impacted. He sees himself as purely a victim.

But him realizing he was actually the cause of his own suffering is key to his recovery.

Welp I was having so many mixed feelings about this one, so I was curious to see the comments… and I see there’s a bit of um contention.

My issue, like many, is just that the MC is so fragile, and the ML is so sexually rough with him that it’s like whoa - this would be pushing it consent wise even if he WASN’T sickly! The only apparent excuse is just he got carried away… :/

So here’s the thing, I wanna talk about the lack of self-control because it’s related in my mind to the Mpreg.

In stuff like omegaverse, they sometimes have the SUPERNATURAL excuse of losing their minds to fucking bc of fictional biology, right? IRL, people are responsible for their actions — there is no aphrodisiac, no currently existing product or natural biology, that actually invokes an irresistible fuck-or-die impulse. What happens in real life is that people commit sex crimes, and try to use systemic misogyny to justify it with claims that it’s simply ‘natural’ for a man to lose control. Absolutely no one IRL is absolved from non consensual sex bc they ‘couldn’t help it’ — you always can, period.

Now, Mpreg.

No need to freak out at each other, guys… there’s a little bit of truth in what everyone’s saying. IRL, yes there are intersex people with indistinguishable or unusual genitalia. Intersex does NOT mean two completely whole and functioning sets of reproductive organs - it means there are organs or secondary features usually attributed to only one gender. Generally in these cases they are not fertile, regardless of whatever sex organ is in present.

Fictional settings like omegaverse usually provide a whole new supernatural biology that involves two fully functioning sets of sex organs. It is NOT intersex; it is a fictional biological phenomenon.

The Mpreg stories that AREN’T omegaverse still usually do the same thing - the biology is made up. I am NOT trying to erase the existence of intersexuality!! What I am saying is that, while maybe loosely INSPIRED BY real biology, at this time there is no KNOWN human biology that actually works like this. Not two fully functioning sets of genitalia, not a fertile womb with also an ejaculate-capable penis, not this SPECIFIC biological layout used in most Mpreg.

So for this story, I categorize the real-world implications of Mpreg in the same place I put ‘losing control’ in bed - the ‘don’t think too hard’ folder! IRL, it just doesn’t work like that, whether it’s physical biology or just human psychology (the myth of ‘losing control’ is a rape excuse IRL, but in fiction I do get how it’s seen as sexy lol).

Just, like. Relax. Lol.

Honestly it’s kinda reassuring to see the chorus of “yikes” in the comments after the whole baby thing lol. Definitely could see it coming, but here I was naively believing they would still do it less creepily than this. I was willing to buy that there would be significant age gaps among mates in this world because there are those blessed with extremely long life and those with normalish lifespans. Fil’s already how many hundred years old? Somewhat inevitable that he’d end up with a mate much much much younger than him.

But to show up right when his mate has JUST been born?? And the parents have to BEG to keep the baby at least until it’s of age?? So much yikes…

To me the only way to mitigate the inherent creepiness of Twilight style baby imprinting is if the adult actually AVOIDS the kid fully until it grows up! Like not even a little interaction, stay the fuck over THERE while the kid’s over HERE, and fucking WAIT. It’s too much room for extremely weird-at-best power dynamics otherwise…

Should’ve figured, already Fil as a character bothered me. That cliffhanger of him ~”healing”~ the MC which immediately was spun into a benign, no no it just LOOKS bad but actually he’s helping and just HAS to do it this way… and no one’s allowed to know or see bc reasons… it was just creepy especially since the MC is a longtime CSA survivor. :/ Sus shit from early on. Sigh.

You know what, I get why so many people are annoyed with Jiheon, but I found his character flaws pretty realistic actually? Absolutely he made horrible misjudgments, with consequences that hurt himself and his loved ones - but it felt consistent with his character, which was heavily flawed. And yeah that makes him a difficult person to get along with, but that was part of the point of his character - his personality is so cynical and presumptive that he has a hard time making lasting, trusting connections with other people… which feeds into his cynicism and rash assumptions, making it a cycle that is not easy to break.

IDK, I kinda liked how he was characterized because he felt like a REAL person. Kinda bitchy, kinda haughty, downright cruel sometimes - but kinda just a kid in terms of emotional maturity, which made him endearing somehow. And no he didn’t have the WORST trauma, but he DID experience narcissistic parenting which absolutely DID have a severe impact on him - it left him with such a deep insecurity, because parents like that teach you that you have to EARN love, it will never be unconditional. If you think you can only find love if you’re worthy of it, your self worth becomes so fragile…

And I thought the main antagonist was actually pretty well characterized too, as a manipulative, narcissistic abuser who honed in on people’s weaknesses expertly. And I like that he’s portrayed as a talented artist - talent and being a good person are wholly separate things, and honestly if anything many highly successful people are also some of the worst people, because they have the power to get away with a lot, and the lack of ethics to steal and manipulate to get or keep that power. So I didn’t blame Jiheon for getting manipulated. He was an insecure person, and the villain used that to sow doubt in him, the way he’d down with many others before…

If anything my issue is more that I’m concerned whether he’s in a strong enough mental space to even BE in a romantic relationship… he’s a little too codependent on his partner for emotional support, which is dangerous. Other than that, tbqh it was a cute love story and the characters were interesting to me. And. YES the miscommunication was a little ridiculous, but it at least felt like it came from a place of deeply ingrained psychological issues, at least on Jiheon’s side. JUST my opinion…