Anybody here confused about their sexuality? Cuz I know I am and as pathetic as it sounds I don't want to know that I'm alone ;-;
me! lately i've been having thoughts about my preferences
OH, you are definitely not alone. I'm sure of that. I like to think that sexuality is a very fluid thing and also so complex.
Me. I think the closest thing I can be is asexual, but even that's not right.
It's hard to explain :/
Me too. I still don't know what I am...
You're not alone; don't worry. Sexuality changes all the time, and preferences float in and out. It's like how one year you might like milk chocolate but the next you like white chocolate, and then the next you like both. It changes! But there's nothing to be worried about. I can tell you that, because I went through it a couple of months back, going from straight to pansexual. It just takes time. Be true to yourself, and if you have any close friends it's important to discuss that with them. You'll find that when you have a supporting group of people around you, it makes the struggle to find yourself so much easier. Plus, if you need anyone to talk to, I'm here, so go ahead and message me on my profile if you'd like!
You don't have to worry too much, sexualty is a spectrum, from heterosexualty to homosexualty and from asexualty to alosexualty. Furthermore, it's completely fluid, it may stagnate in some points of your life for various factors but it may change in the same way. You don't really have to put yourself in a box, it's a good way to fight for rights in society but only that. Feel free to be unsure, just feel free to be yourself. :)
well not confused it's just that i never think about and i don't feel sexually or romantically attracted to any gender but what.. i'm still young
"Young" as in? Reached puberty though, right?
Yeah, I'm in the same boat XD It's hard to explain pretty much sums up the entire confusion, along with "asexual".
Thanks a lot :) It felt really nice to read your reply. :D
Hi, and thanks so much for your reply :D
No, I wouldn't really share my sexual preferences with my friends because I don't think they will really understand because all of them are straight and I'm not really sure I'll be comfortable with telling them in the first place; plus I live in a country where there are still many homophobic people or people who are most likely to be wary of anyone who is not straight so yeah. Wow that sentence had a lot of conjunctions. XD
And yes, it would be lovely talking to you regarding this :D Shall I go ahead and message you, then?
Because if you have and still don't feel attracted to any gender...maybe you are asexual?
hhmm... could be but i'm still 14 so i don't now what will happen in the future but i will just let it happen(whatever will happen in the future)
Okay, this is something I've been keeping inside me for a LOOOOONG time and its downright frustrating.
I am 18 and bisexual/biromantic. Or maybe not. Idk.
Well, how do I say it? In my 18 years of life, I've never fallen or had a crush on a girl or a guy. I know, weird, right? All my (straight) friends talk about their respective boyfriends or girlfriends and they discuss about stuff like that but I've never really had the interest. It's kinda...bleak, y'know? Romantically being involved with people of the opposite sex or the same sex, I mean.
When a female friend talks about "That guy right there, he's so hot." my reaction to that is a very uncomfortable "Oh yeah, he looks pretty good, doesn't he?" and then a few well placed nods and hmms whenever necessary. That being said, its not that I don't find guys handsome or pleasing to look at, or the thought of being romantically involved with them or kissing them displeasing (in fact, that train of thought isn't bad at all), but they don't really fall into my "priority list". Its more of a passing thought-- a situation I wouldn't mind being in.
When my guy friends talk about girls, I guess the correct response to that is, "Yeah she is pretty, you like her, huh? *teasing grin*". So I say that. But I've known, since I was a kid, that I have been interested in girls, maybe not exactly completely non-platonic-ally but not quite platonic-ally either. Again, the thought of making out with them or being in a romantic relationship with a girl is certainly not an unpleasant and I do find the female body (like with the male body) quite attractive. I have thought of kissing girls before and I... am fond of that train of thought. Though, again, its a passing thought-- not on my "priority list".
So, concluding, I'm seriously fucking confused and I don't know what to do or how to decide and since I live in a not-really-homophobic but REALLY-homophobic country, exploring is certainly not an option unless I'm very discreet. And then there's the fact that I've literally never had a crush on anyone, ever. Hell, I don't think I can fall in love with someone even at a gun point. ┑(￣Д ￣)┍ But, that's not something I'm sure of. But, I mean, when you're in puberty you're bound to crush on someone, right? Right? Its all about hormones running about crazily at that age, after all.
That being said, I don't want to be in a relationship, what with my exams looming in the horizon and being single is fine with me. But my sexuality has been bugging me for the past few years and, since I prefer chickening out, I try not to think too much about it lest I end up disappointing my parents or screwing things up or something.
...and that was a seriously long ass comment; I'm sorry! (⊙…⊙ ) That's my five years worth of thoughts, explained as succinctly as I could.
Demisexual? I'm not an expert in this kind of stuff not even close but maybe this is it? (It's close to it, I think?)
Maybe this the word you're looking for idk
Hmm maybe the terms "queer" or "questioning" might be suit you. The latter is self-explanatory but queer is (from what I understand) more of an open, umbrella term for anyone that isn't hetero.
Also, it's ok if you don't label yourself as anything or if you're unsure. People use those terms because they strongly identify with them, but if you're still figuring out and don't want to label yourself as anything exclusively, then you don't have to - just be you!
And don't worry if you haven't really experienced any crushes or love of any sort. Doesn't mean you're strange or anything, just means the right person hasn't come along or the circumstances haven't aligned for you to find someone. It'll happen when it's supposed to happen. For now just focus on doing well on your exams. Good luck!
I think demisexual is the right track since its sounds like you have some sexual inclinations, you just might need the emotional connection/depth to actually get into it so to say. It could be also asexual and bi romantic since some asexuals like kissing and cuddling (its kinda one of those things where the degree of intamicy wanted depends on the individual). You might want to find some forums on both and talk it though with some who actually are that way to get a better idea though. You could just be like me though and just be so focused on other things that your oblivious... I had sex drive but no desire to act on it fully till my 20s cause i couldnt deal with the immaturity of those around me and i was oblivious to others attraction tward me. Plus i didnt understand idolizing real people, felt that would lead to disapointment since people are rarely as good as we thought they would be without knowing them. Anyways dont stress it. Do some searching to know the terms and just ponder it now and then. Their is no rush and while we may be born with our inclinations sometimes how we experience it and define it can change.
I'm in the same boat as you--believe me you're not alone! I know others dealing with this as well. The way I've dealt with it is that I just prefer not to label myself anything but queer or sexually fluid. I know I am sexually/romantically attracted to women, I know I also like men, but I never have any inclinations to actually be in a relationship either. And that's fine! Society puts a lot of pressure on us to fit into some sort of category but I think you'll feel less stressed/free when you understand it's completely fine to just go with the flow. I used to stress so much like you because I just didn't understand where to fit into the sexuality spectrum and I felt like I HAD to find my place. My family would ask if I was lesbian, my sister asked if I was asexual-- but I just reply that I honestly do not know OR CARE. I accept that whatever happens, happens. I believe we will find ourselves soon but we can't rush it or force anything, it just causes negative, anxious feelings to do so.
We're pretty much the same! I think you shouldn't bother so much about labels, you'll be able to find out your preferences along the way even without labelling. Worked for me. :)
Don't worry ur not the only one who feels like this. I was in the same situation and I still am like that now. I've tried being "normal" and lives out my youth like my friends did, but out just won't work out. Even recently my friend noted that 'there's no point in dating someone if Ur not going to tell them anything.' then she told me dat I'm probably one of the asexual people and I'm fine with dat. Just learn to accept who u are, and if u want a love relationship, it'll come in due time. I don't think this was of much help, but I hope it did help. (=・ω・=)
Just go with wat u feel is right
I think you are pretty normal (*´ー｀*) just happen to be a late bloom. Just like me. Puberty isnt decided by age since age is just a number. I never interested in any guy or girl too , no one could make me excited. Oh yea, my first crush is when i hit 20.
Thank you for the reply :) And, yes, I have considered that but I'm still not really sure... but thanks a lot! :D
So you've never been even a bit attracted to any of the genders?Like, even a bit? Before 20, I mean.
Thank you so much for your reply! (▰˘◡˘▰)
I know I shouldn't think about it now, but it keeps on nagging me unconsciously, y'know?
Thank you so much for your reply :)
Yeah, the idolizing real people thing is true for me. Its not much about disappointment but the fact that they're...people. Not human beings, just people. I'm actually really not sure how to explain.
Its the fact that I am possible attracted to women that scares me, doesn't matter whether whether the attraction is kind of "meh" or is likely to bear something (scary) in the future. Its not like I can talk to anyone about it...
Anyway, thanks a lot for replying :) For now I'll let it be and see where it goes.
Did not labeling yourself really help? Didn't it keep on revolving in your head, over and over again? That's what happens to me ┗( T﹏T )┛
No, no, it a actually did help quite a bit. I'm trying to live my life as normally as possible for now, and trying not to think things over too much. I'll try to let it be and see where it goes :)
Thanks a lot!
Any yaoi maga where the uke looks docile and pretends to be docile in front of others but is, actually, seriously fucking badass?
THANKS! :D
i love this type uke the most. check this out.
http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/love_doll_house_mamiya/an/love-doll-house-mamiya-chapter-6.html/1/
Yaoi manga with a sexy, confident uke with the biggest crush on the seme? Doesn't matter whether he has accepted his feelings for the seme or not.
Thanks a bunch! (๑•ㅂ•)و✧
My kittens are usually confident enough w/ themselves to seduce their target at all cost.
Start at the last and choose the "bold kittens" or just chwck my review http://www.mangago.me/home/mangalist/43522/?filter=&page=8
THANK YOU SO MUCH!!
You literally have the best mangalists out there, no kidding. ヾ(☆▽☆)
Confident, sexy uke with the biggest crush on the seme? Doesn't matter whether the uke has accepted his feelings for the seme or not.
THANKS A BUNCH! :3
Can anybody suggest me a bunch of yaoi manga which include real gay angst? Or cross dressing angst? The character/s doesn't want to be gay or a cross dresser, but is gay or a cross dresser anyway?
Thanks a bunch! :3
Hello to you !
I have a little list like that of the manga I enjoyed with stories revolving about gay characters, issues related to homosexuality etc..
http://www.mangago.me/home/mangalist/58884/
With angst you have Smells like green spirit, Kyuuso Ha Cheese no Yume Omiru, some oneshots like in Good Morning Bad Day, and for cross dressing you have Hanamai Koeda De Aimashou and I my personal favorite is Udagawachou De Mattete Yo (but pretty popular ^^).
Hope you find something you like and haven't read yet !
I Have nice ones in my sexuality list. It's a compliation where sexuality is a main topic (plus i really i have to like them)
http://www.mangago.me/home/mangalist/43415/?filter=&page=1
Thank you so much!
Oh, out of all the manga (not in the mangalist) you had suggested, the only one I hadn't read was Good Morning Bad Day, but now that I have read it THE FEELS. Especially the bit where he says that his past is no big deal, and the bit where he thinks the word "dog" and the image pops into his mind-- I was like GAAAAAHHHHHH he's so much in love and he totally can't control his emotions! My favorite was Udagawachou De Mattete Yo, too. Thanks a lot!
Heheh, sorry for the overly long reply, though :3
Oooooh, thank you SOOOO much! (๑•ㅂ•)و✧
No don't worry about it ! I'm glad you enjoyed it and that I could advise something new to you. That one is pretty underrated in my opinion so I'm happy I could give it some publicity :3
The ones I mentioned to you were the ones that came to mind, maybe you'll find some more in the complete list :) Got more gay angst, not much cross dressing though, I think not many mangas are good at portraying a nice, not overly cliché story, that's why when I find them I really enjoy those that are well done like Udagawachou. It's pretty hard to find new things we enjoy after a while reading yaoi isn't it ? In any case, good readings !
It was one great one-shot, definitely worth a re-read!
Cross dressing mangas are one of the best mangas out there, because it involves so many conflicting emotions. It looks into the emotional side of the characters, rather than the physical "lets have sex" side of the characters.
I read all the mangas in the list; I'm so glad you suggested the list to me! :D
Any shoujo manga where romance is a far-off thing? I mean, there is romance, but as less as possible.Like, almost non existent, but still present.The two characters are more friends than lovers? The manga should be absolutely hilarious because I love laughing!(๑•ㅂ•)و✧
Some exqmples are Oresama Teacher, Gekkan Shoujo Nozaki-kun, Takane to Hana, Five (to some extent), Koi Dano Ai Dano (again, to some extent.Actually, to a lot extent, but the last few chapters...that doesn't mean I didn't like it, though :D ) and Tomochan wa Onnanoko.
The girl shoul be a tomboy.Or if not a tomboy, at least strong and hilarious.
Thanks in advance! :3
Hav u tried skip beat?
http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/seishun_otome_banchou/
Try that
And do tell me if you are not laughing cuz i need to slit open my stomach then
http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/warau_kanoko_sama/
you can try the prequel to koi dano ai dano, if you haven't already
Yep, I have, but thanks for suggesting (づ￣ ³￣)づ
Omg, thank you soooo much for suggesting this! THIS IS ONE HILARIOUS PIECE OF WORK!
I have read this, but thanks anyway ლ(´ڡ`ლ)
Have read it already. But thanks for suggesting! :3
have you tried horimiya ,its hilarious and heartwarming. it has romance in it but it handles it really well.you should check it out.
Any yaoi manga which starts off with a lot of friendly banter between the uke and the seme? It'd be great if there is a lot of awkwardness and/or drama before the romance and/or sex scenes.
Also, I have become a huge fan of mutual pining too. Recommend me some of those too!
Thanks in advance! (๑•ㅂ•)و✧
Stories like those are cute. This is a mix collection. Friend (at first) and already lovers pair http://www.mangago.me/people/tag/49344/bickering+lovers/
Also, there should be plenty of those in my childhood friends to lovers list. The awkardness of the transition of being frinds to lovers http://www.mangago.me/home/mangalist/46664/
Oh my god thank you so muuuch! I'll read them right away! ლ(´ڡ`ლ)
Any yaoi manga with a very supportive female character? It'd be nice if the girl is a friend/sister/someone of one or both of the characters and supports the two guys.
i a sorry i don't remember the title but there is ths funny one where le wife of the guy dies and the mother of the wife to prevent the husband to leave replace the wife by the son...
yes this one http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/follow/
the sister : http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/itaike_na_bokura/
this one thx
i like those. i'm collecting them for personal purpose and there's quite a number here http://www.mangago.me/people/tag/49344/amazing+secondary+characters/
note: i collect both male and female, as long as the person is an important character that is close to the uke or seme.
Yaoi manga with the sort of unrequited love that makes you something in your heart feel dead? :3
"Raisning a bat" is actually good in this pretext but it becomes so sappy at times that I feel like bashing my head. I won't say it's unrequited, it's more like they're both oblivious to it and can't say it out loud.
it sooo unrequited case :
http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/kyuuso_ha_cheese_no_yume_omiru/
http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/koisuru_boukun/
mutual but he thinks it's unrequited and it's hurt :
http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/raising_a_bat/
http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/pokerface_lee_ki_ha/
http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/love_letter_sakai_kunie/
http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/higouhou_junai/
http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/playboy_amour/
http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/desire/
http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/seto_no_omise_no_okyakusama/
http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/croquis/
http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/yuigon/