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A question aimed at yaoi readers (づ￣ ³￣)づ
Do you think there’s a double standard for the top/seme? Like there are things that are allowed or easily forgiven when the bottom/uke do it but then as soon as it’s done by the top, suddenly it’s absolutely unforgivable and the bottom is told to search for another top or smth like that
It has been bothering me that people are more eager to forgive one but not another. Then again maybe it’s cuz my brain’s in a bad shape lately or because protagonists are mainly bottoms^^’
JSJUSUDJEJ rape,, when the "uke" rapes the seme and then i look at the comment section, then i see a "OMG SO HOT" i—
wtf iknow right, i hate those type of people. Junta literally raped Takato (the title is: dakaretai otoko ni) then i saw the comment "i love rape" like wtf?
Yeah, and i think it goes both ways. Like the seme being just overall a jerk is so common it becomes acceptable, but when the uke is a jerk i see all the comments hating him.
On the other hand when it comes to sexual assault/harassment, the uke is forgiven more easily than the seme. Overall theres this impression that the uke is weaker than the seme so if he rapes the seme he doesnt actually hurt him, the seme in fect let him do it
WTFF HSJSJUDIWIWI????#*#**#?#? i dont like how people are calling him an angel jsiduduhshw
I think it's kind of a mirror of our society. It's kinda easy to understand that ukes represent women and semes represent men. The double standards that you can find in yaoi in general is basically the same as in our society with the gender norms. Such as slutshaming or accepting rapes when it concerns ukes/women.
Ya like when the uke hits or abuses the seme then its okay but when the seme does it then its unacceptable. That's bullshit. It goes both ways. Like just imagine guys. The uke slaps the seme multiple times and most people think its ok but when its the other way round ,it comes under abuse.
I usually find the opposite. Since my biggest trigger is a controlling, manipulative character. The kind of character who cuts off their lovers options to force them to behave a certain way or into a relationship.
More likely to be praised as 'hot' if it's the seme and hated if it's the uke (or fl).
It doesn't bother me that people have that reaction. Because they're not reading the same emotions I am. They're reading something different.
It's pretty normal to have a uke double-standard though. The uke is usually the protagonist so you're meant to be more sympathetic to them. I guarantee you're more accepting of bad behaviour in people you have a connection to than strangers irl too. The uke, as both the protagonist and receptive partner, is often in a position of vulnerability. Which makes their behaviour more permissive to balance with the seme.
My guy just tryna be in good terms with his neighbor