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Has being a fujo/fudan ever taken a toll on your RL relationships?
So this is outta sheer curiosity. I'm a 25 yr-old closeted fujo. Hetero in preference but pretty much asexual in practice. Live in a country where LGBTis frowned upon. At the age where peer and family pressures to go dating and marriage is frustratingly high but I've nvr even dated anyone seriously before. Now when I'm already addicted to BL, always have this worry that any man will be scared off if they knew this hobby of mine. I've also read ppl's experiences when they have to stop reading BL since their partners disagree. I dont think I can do that so I always avoid dating at all cost, but consequently ppl start questioning and even judging me the wrong way. On top of that, it's also hard making friends in RL since BL is the only thing im interested in lmao. What about you guys? Do you have similar experience? How d'you handle it?
Only some of my friends know about my yaoi habit. I'd never DREAM of telling my family (mom, sister, etc.), but since I'm married, and don't live with them anymore, that's not a very big deal. My husband doesn't know I read yaoi, or if he does, he hasn't let on that he knows. I don't really have any intention of telling him. It does make me feel a ...... reply
Ah hello Im a 20 yr old girl fujo and same as you, my country is also still against LGBTs and marriage is still seen as something high and sacred so thr pressure is high.
But, I would not say that I'm that closeted since I tell some of my friends (none of them read manga or watch anime) that I love seeing boys loving each other (a.k.a a fujo) but ...... 1 reply
I started reading yaoi because of my daughter, who gave me Sekaiichi Hatsukoi, then I started buying yaoi and found some interesting websites :) My kids are ok with this, also kids (only kids, because I can't tell this to other teachers, we - adults - should think about our responsibilities, reading manga is idiotic!) in my school (I'm a teacher-li...... reply
Oh hell yeah. I'm a fudanshi and it is actually a nightmare. Yaoi is all fluffy and nice, right, but in reality I can literally name all the gay people that I know with one hand and they're all either not my type or taken.
However, there was this one time where I met this straight guy who I really liked. Usually I don't go for straight guys, since...... 3 reply
Yeah it has in it's own way. I didn't really start getting into anime until my cousin pushed me over to watch it and it went from there. I was really curious about the different genres and eventually discovered BL and have loved it ever since. My country has allowed LGBT marriage all over the states so its not frowned upon as much anymore, just dep...... reply
Wow yay I'm also 25, a fudanshi
I mean I haven't dated in a while since it's kind of annoying to have to date someone. Also because I end up liking the wrong people anyway but that's like.... a whole different issue pft
I only know maybe two people irl who actually like yaoi, and one of them is a total jerk, so I don't talk to them
Almost everyo...... reply
Sorta....after getting into manga, anime, and yaoi, when someone confesses to me I'm like "okay .-." Next time we meet I mess with them XD there was a time a guy Confessed to me then I said "okie :3" the day since the girls and boys gym floors were being replaced we all had gym together. I had SO MANY THINGS IN MY HANDS cause I wanted to draw outsi...... 1 reply
Share time.
29 now but in my oh-so-awkward years of teenage-hood....ah...memories.
Tried dating while I was figuring myself out, liked guys and girls. Didn't want a relationship but did at the same time. It was confusing.
Anyway, was secretly dating a guy in high school. Family is old school asian, homos were homos in their eyes and I was the...... reply
