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Has being a fujo/fudan ever taken a toll on your RL relationships?
So this is outta sheer curiosity. I'm a 25 yr-old closeted fujo. Hetero in preference but pretty much asexual in practice. Live in a country where LGBTis frowned upon. At the age where peer and family pressures to go dating and marriage is frustratingly high but I've nvr even dated anyone seriously before. Now when I'm already addicted to BL, always have this worry that any man will be scared off if they knew this hobby of mine. I've also read ppl's experiences when they have to stop reading BL since their partners disagree. I dont think I can do that so I always avoid dating at all cost, but consequently ppl start questioning and even judging me the wrong way. On top of that, it's also hard making friends in RL since BL is the only thing im interested in lmao. What about you guys? Do you have similar experience? How d'you handle it?
Only some of my friends know about my yaoi habit. I'd never DREAM of telling my family (mom, sister, etc.), but since I'm married, and don't live with them anymore, that's not a very big deal. My husband doesn't know I read yaoi, or if he does, he hasn't let on that he knows. I don't really have any intention of telling him. It does make me feel a ...... reply
My fiance (male) and I (female) have been together for 8 years. During the first couple of years of our relationship, I generally kept my love for the genre to myself. After all, we were a new couple and I was young; I thought I would scare him away. But, overtime, as we grew up and got to know one another more and more, we learned pretty much ever...... reply
I'm a closet otaku/fujoshi as well, and I'm also bisexual. It was tough throughout high school because of my sexuality & my love for anime (as I never told even my best friend that I'm an otaku)
But, when I started university in Canada I met my boyfriend now fiance (who also loves anime) and he understands my sexuality and is open about it. Though...... 1 reply
Ah hello Im a 20 yr old girl fujo and same as you, my country is also still against LGBTs and marriage is still seen as something high and sacred so thr pressure is high.
But, I would not say that I'm that closeted since I tell some of my friends (none of them read manga or watch anime) that I love seeing boys loving each other (a.k.a a fujo) but ...... 1 reply
I started reading yaoi because of my daughter, who gave me Sekaiichi Hatsukoi, then I started buying yaoi and found some interesting websites :) My kids are ok with this, also kids (only kids, because I can't tell this to other teachers, we - adults - should think about our responsibilities, reading manga is idiotic!) in my school (I'm a teacher-li...... reply
There was one time when the guy I'm currently dating saw me visiting a yaoi group in facebook and he said "Really? You're reading yaoi?" in a bad way so that kinda pissed me off. What pissed me off more is when he said next, "I mean it's okay if it's yuri, but yaoi?" It kinda turned me off. I ignored him and he never said any comment about it again...... 2 reply
Oh hell yeah. I'm a fudanshi and it is actually a nightmare. Yaoi is all fluffy and nice, right, but in reality I can literally name all the gay people that I know with one hand and they're all either not my type or taken.
However, there was this one time where I met this straight guy who I really liked. Usually I don't go for straight guys, since...... 3 reply
Yeah it has in it's own way. I didn't really start getting into anime until my cousin pushed me over to watch it and it went from there. I was really curious about the different genres and eventually discovered BL and have loved it ever since. My country has allowed LGBT marriage all over the states so its not frowned upon as much anymore, just dep...... reply
yes, sadly. being a fujoshi has taken a toll on my 19 years of life. i wasn't a fan until 3 years ago. and ever since 3 years ago, there has been no success in relationships. OH don't misunderstand me though, i've lived my 19 years completely single but ever since being a fujoshi, it has lowered my chances down to 0%. im gonna be single foreverah a...... 1 reply
I share my yaoi with my husband and my sons. BL and yaoi are based on women's fantasies, so I share them with the men in my life. For my husband, I pick manga that have semes that really turn me on and he tries to emulate them. It's a fun role playing game. Eventually I'd love to see it progress to cosplay! LOL For my sons, I share manga that I th...... reply
