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Taking virginity too seriously or too lightly?
First things first, I lack both sympathy and empathy, so I apologize beforehand if I end up offending people.
So really I'm wondering if I'm taking virginity too seriously or other people are just taking it too lightly. As I was growing up I was always told that virginity was really important and it should only be lost to the one you love. I'm assuming it's because of this I believe you should wait until you're married.
I'm horrified seeing tons of people lose it when they're a teen, just 'experiencing', or before they're married. In all honesty, I'm disgusted and don't have very good opinions about those people. I could never understand why you would do such a thing, even if you use protection there is still a chance of pregnancy. Although the chance is very low, you still can't pretend it's 0...
Plus, usually they break up anyway, then when they do find the right person they no longer have it. Is it just not as important as I thought it was? However, I am obviously still aware that you can still divorce even after marriage but I don't know...
Again, I apologize that this came out harshly but it's my honest opinion, not trying to fight with anyone or anything. I just want others thoughts on this.
I think the importance of virginity is just a social construct to keep people (mostly women) in line. It's really not that big of a deal. More emphasis should be placed on doing the right thing for yourself and being emotionally and mentally readyto have sex and then how to do it safely. It's nothing of "value" and a person isn't less valuable or m...... 2 reply
Is shame the issue here? Because frankly I think virginity is a macguffin (and you can look up the meaning of that under neologisms.) You are placing exceptional value on your virginity, but why? Virginity isn't your love. It isn't your loyalty. It's a condition of your genitals, not your heart. People who have been raped and had their virginity fo...... 3 reply
As someone who's waited until 26, I can honestly say it was a waste of time. It was a very disenchanting experience and I wondered afterwards what the all the fuss was about. I regret not experiencing more as a teen, as now I found the one I want to spend my life with and I can't explore anymore without hurting him.
Also to quote Hal Sparks, "you...... 2 reply
First of all, when someone "loses their virginity" is no one's business but theirs. We have a term for judging other people for what they do with their own bodies, and it's "slut-shaming." You do what you want with your body, and let others do the same.
In addition, as a grown married woman and mother, virginity is overrated. Many societies place ...... 2 reply
I understand that you're bothered on how other people can be so opposite to what you've been taught. You're against premarital sex and you want to understand what makes someone actively decide to lose their virginity;
You want to justify that your values are right and not exaggerated and that it's the 'people' who are simply careless.
My response ...... 1 reply
It's a very traditional view that women in particular are supposed to save themselves for marriage and that their virginity is sacred. That girl isn't a virgin? She's worthless. Why? Because she's sullied and not worthy of being married. And that's a woman's only value: to be a wife and birth children. Women shouldn't be sexual. Men can go to broth...... 1 reply
Honestly, I think the most important thing is the respect you have for yourself. As in, not forcing yourself to do something just because of peer pressure. Want to remain a virgin until marriage ? Go for it. Wanna have fun ? Sure, go ahead.
In my opinion, virginity shouldn't be celebrated nor should it be considered "lame". It's a personal choice. ...... 2 reply
I didn't exactly lose my virginity when I was ready, but I did have premarital sex with others after that relationship ended. It really depends on how you were raised and/or your own personal morals. There really isn't anything wrong with protecting your virginity or letting it go. I do, however, believe your first time should be with someone you t...... 2 reply
virginity is a social construct used to control and exploit women and girls. fuck that. fuck who you want. When it comes to sex, we need to stop making such a big deal out of 'virginity' and start emphasizing consent, respect, and responsibility. 1 reply
I think people should do what they feel honestly. If you want to wait until marriage cool and if you don't thats also cool. I think it all depends on the person. I do believe you should have a certain level of maturity before your first time but honestly i think most times people aren't ready and really thats ok too because its hard to be prepared ...... 3 reply
