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Taking virginity too seriously or too lightly?
First things first, I lack both sympathy and empathy, so I apologize beforehand if I end up offending people.
So really I'm wondering if I'm taking virginity too seriously or other people are just taking it too lightly. As I was growing up I was always told that virginity was really important and it should only be lost to the one you love. I'm assuming it's because of this I believe you should wait until you're married.
I'm horrified seeing tons of people lose it when they're a teen, just 'experiencing', or before they're married. In all honesty, I'm disgusted and don't have very good opinions about those people. I could never understand why you would do such a thing, even if you use protection there is still a chance of pregnancy. Although the chance is very low, you still can't pretend it's 0...
Plus, usually they break up anyway, then when they do find the right person they no longer have it. Is it just not as important as I thought it was? However, I am obviously still aware that you can still divorce even after marriage but I don't know...
Again, I apologize that this came out harshly but it's my honest opinion, not trying to fight with anyone or anything. I just want others thoughts on this.
I think the importance of virginity is just a social construct to keep people (mostly women) in line. It's really not that big of a deal. More emphasis should be placed on doing the right thing for yourself and being emotionally and mentally readyto have sex and then how to do it safely. It's nothing of "value" and a person isn't less valuable or m...... 2 reply
As someone who's waited until 26, I can honestly say it was a waste of time. It was a very disenchanting experience and I wondered afterwards what the all the fuss was about. I regret not experiencing more as a teen, as now I found the one I want to spend my life with and I can't explore anymore without hurting him.
Also to quote Hal Sparks, "you...... 2 reply
I understand that you're bothered on how other people can be so opposite to what you've been taught. You're against premarital sex and you want to understand what makes someone actively decide to lose their virginity;
You want to justify that your values are right and not exaggerated and that it's the 'people' who are simply careless.
My response ...... 1 reply
I didn't exactly lose my virginity when I was ready, but I did have premarital sex with others after that relationship ended. It really depends on how you were raised and/or your own personal morals. There really isn't anything wrong with protecting your virginity or letting it go. I do, however, believe your first time should be with someone you t...... 2 reply
virginity is a social construct used to control and exploit women and girls. fuck that. fuck who you want. When it comes to sex, we need to stop making such a big deal out of 'virginity' and start emphasizing consent, respect, and responsibility. 1 reply
I think people should do what they feel honestly. If you want to wait until marriage cool and if you don't thats also cool. I think it all depends on the person. I do believe you should have a certain level of maturity before your first time but honestly i think most times people aren't ready and really thats ok too because its hard to be prepared ...... 3 reply
Sex is the most natural thing you can have, and if your partner is good, you're gonna have a good time. Why would having sex makes you such a disgusting person? It gives both sides pleasure, if you use protection it's pretty unlikely that you'll get pregnant, so why waste your life? 1 reply
I'm conflicted, kinda feel the same way, hell I even think that without it I would be the same as other women but then I tell myself that culture teaches women that their virginity is something very important and that type of thinking sets back the rights women fought and are fighting for, to do with their bodies as they please, shaming women for t...... 2 reply
I take it veeeeery lightly, for me it doesn't mean anything, your body and mentality don't change so nothing happens and since I'm lesbian it rly doesn't matter 2 reply
Hi, I'm grateful for this question as it shows that there are still teenagers who actually care about themselves. I'm NOT trying to say that people who lost their virginity are disgusting or anything like that. But it's honestly great to see people who actually stop and think before they do sex.
As for your question, no, you're not taking it too...... 1 reply
