Why do people complain about men/Yaoi being oversexualized

Yeah, its wrong to do this to anyone especially directly, but haven't men done this to us girls too?... It is shown with how we are portrayed in the media such as anime, music videos, television etc.. Lesbians aren't safe either, in fact its a fetish (if u go on porn hub lesbians are on the straight section :/) most ecci Yuri's and ecchis animes make me very uncomfy so when ppl say "stop supporting yaoi" because it oversexualizes them sometimes I remember how men do this to us too..... Isn't us reading bl empowering in some ways? We take the misoginy out the picture there and it feels safer to forget about how we get treated