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PSA #4: Mlm issues and why you don't have a say in them
As much as y'all love to say that men don't get a say on women's issues, or that white people don't get a say on poc's issues (both of which are true), y'all, at least on here, do that exact thing to mlm people.
Non-mlm people, *including lgbt+ women*, do *not* and will *never* have a say in what constitutes as fetishizing mlm people, or a say in what does or doesn't affect us and how. You do not get to have a seat at the table for things that pertain to a group of people you aren't even a part of.
And yes, that extends to discourse on and around yaoi/bl.
as an mlm, i can agree to an extent. i do think that other people should have a say in what counts as fetishizing though. if an lgbt woman were to say "i think reading yaoi for the gay sex is fetishizing" and an mlm went "no it's not. im mlm, and only i can say what's fetishizing" (i saw this a few years back on another mangago post, but this is wo...... 2 reply
