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PSA #4: Mlm issues and why you don't have a say in them
As much as y'all love to say that men don't get a say on women's issues, or that white people don't get a say on poc's issues (both of which are true), y'all, at least on here, do that exact thing to mlm people.
Non-mlm people, *including lgbt+ women*, do *not* and will *never* have a say in what constitutes as fetishizing mlm people, or a say in what does or doesn't affect us and how. You do not get to have a seat at the table for things that pertain to a group of people you aren't even a part of.
And yes, that extends to discourse on and around yaoi/bl.
Right bruh how you gonna say what counts as fetishization and what doesn’t, when your literally not the one who’s being fetishized. Make it make sense. reply
Eh. Obviously non-mlm do not get to decide what's fetishization and what isn't, but they're certainly allowed an opinion. This also applies to men talking about women's issues, you can always have an opinion on it and also voice and be correct about it, BUT you must always listen to the actual people that are affected. I'm not a guy and I try to av...... reply
as an mlm, i can agree to an extent. i do think that other people should have a say in what counts as fetishizing though. if an lgbt woman were to say "i think reading yaoi for the gay sex is fetishizing" and an mlm went "no it's not. im mlm, and only i can say what's fetishizing" (i saw this a few years back on another mangago post, but this is wo...... 2 reply
This reminds me of that old question anti fujoshi stfu challenge. It was so ignorant. Glad someone talked about it. I would also like to add something in this conversation. In case someone thinks it’s ok to fetishize them because any mlm is ok with it reply
I should be cleaning my dog's shit atm but here I am giving my two cents. I have my own list of dos and don'ts when it comes to mlm and wlw but the bottom-line is, if you're not mlm and still feel the to justify certain types of behaviors especially when you don't do the same to relationships of other genders, that's where you cross the line.
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