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How to come out
I know that if I were to confess to my parents that I was a lesbian, the reaction would likely not be That Bad. But I'm just afraid it would change the dynamic of my relationship with them forever. I'm 15 right now but I've never even had a girlfriend or even my first kiss. I've rejected plenty of guys and maybe I wouldn't be so romantically hopeless if I just gave it up and went out with them. I have the feeling that my mother wouldn't even BELIEVE me if I told her I was a lesbian unless I was like, dating someone. Not only that, but they'd probably be disappointed as well. She has specifically said things like "I'm so lucky my children aren't getting into the LGBT trend." Which pissed me off so deeply but I couldn't get angry at her without sounding too defensive.
In any case, I just can't come out by my own means even though I know I need to before they find out by some source that isn't me. What do
First and foremost, it's really hard to come out to parents or adults who are "close-minded" in other words; they're stuck in their own beliefs and unable to accept new ideas especially if it contradicts their religion or belief. I have a relative who also says the same things as your mother and has teases gays.
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I can't really help because i can't really relate but I belive there's no right time or right way. Just make sure that if you do it it's in a calm environnement where you can have a long and calm talk, you can also try to bring up the topic multiple times before. Also they have to understand that it's natural and tha...... reply
My advice would be to just tell them and explain to them that it has been just as rough for you to hold back on telling them as it might be for them to hear it but at least you are coming to terms with it and have already expected that things would not go smoothly at first. Assure them that you are still the same person you always have been the on...... 1 reply
Well maybe my story can be a little helpful. Here you can look at my coming out story: http://www.mangago.me/thing/about/47181/
I can tell you that it's hard to come out even when your parents are quite liberal. I wanted to come out since I was probably 18 or 19 and I did it when I was 24 xD Now I'm almost 27 and I don't regret it.
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I'm a lesbian myself! It took a while for me to come out, because I live in a place that's really conservative.
I did go out with some guys in high school, but, to be honest, it was really boring and I didn't feel better about my romantic prospects at all afterwards.
I feel better about romance, now, and I don't feel like I'm in any rush to have so...... reply
If you aren't sure if your parents wont react terribly or if you're not ready for your relationship to change with them it's okay to not come out yet. You're still valid for wanting to stay safe and in the closet for a while longer until you have a safe place to go in the worst case scenario. If you are ready for either of these situations (i.e you...... reply
i am also 15 and a lesbian! im in the exact same situation as you! my advice is, dont listen to anyone who tells you to come out. i am out to lots of people at school including my friends, but the thought of coming out to my parents gives me this feeling of dread and ive personally never even considered coming out to them because that feeling is so...... reply
i thought about coming out, but i didn't because who i sleep with has nothing to do with them till the wedding. they can leave if they want that just means theres more cake for me. reply
