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Was It The Right Choice?
After all I've been through with my friend, I decided to cut ties with her.
When I first met her, she was the jolly girl I knew and saw. We kind of became friends, but as time passes you can see her real skin peeling off.
She was your typical rebel kid, and she was dependent on me most of the time. Some of her homeworks, her projects, listening to her family problems, to also make her score higher on real exams (requiring cheating). I've done so much for her, and I can't even expect one thing from her back.
When I confonted her about this matter, she cussed me. "F*** you. I am not dependent on you and ***** (My other friend)." F*** me? She continued to say any cuss words, which is ironic as she was of religion. I tried to ignore her messages until she calmed down. But I was too furious.
The next day I ignored her.
Then months later, we're still ignoring each other. I don't have any more best friend.
Everyday, I regretted my actions. "Should I have understand her position? Should I apologize? Should I this Should I that?"
This thought is eating me alive everyday.
(I am currently writing an apology letter, but I'm scared for the result. I am thinking of not sending it until summer break. I can't face her.)
I think that if you give her respect and she doesn't give you any respect back then you should not continue to be friends. She's just going to keep taking advantage of you if you do so. While it does hurt there will be much better people out there who want to be friends and who will respect you so try to keep your head up high. :) 1 reply
You were never in the wrong, and unfriending her was probably the best choice for you. Honestly for her to cuss at you all bc you brought up the topic of her acting lil dependent on you was way too far, plus stop writing that apology letter cuz she doesn't even deserve it, and there's nothing for you to understand in her position, since you LITERAL...... 1 reply
Bro it's better to have no best friends rather than someone who doesn't give a fuck about you and given that you help her so much you can expect her to be there when you need. You did the right thing dude 1 reply
What is not clear here, did you ever ask her to do something for you and she denied?
Or you just complained expecting something from her to offer?
1.If you stopped being friends with her for smth real, your decision to ignore her and unfriend her was right.
2. If you stopped being friends because you EXPECTED from her to react certain way, you ma...... 4 reply
thank god you ditched that bitch????? excuse my French but that girl just wanted to use you as a diary, a dictionary, and a Disney+ typical school nerd. You should feel no remorse for leaving as its obvious she wanted todo as she pleased with you without being confronted. 1 reply
Thank you everybody for sharing your mind. I have not replied quick as I was afraid that the comments were not as I would expect. But it was the other way around.
I've learned so much from all of your comments, from boundaries to respect. I appreciate all of you who took their time.
I love all of you, and have a great day! reply
No because how are you gonna rely on this person for however long that friendship lasted, and the moment the person just makes a comment, bro starts blowing up. Like tf, that’s beyond bruh. If you didn’t come at her throat or say anything mad accusatory or disrespectful you shouldn’t have to deal with all of that. Everyone deserves someone wh...... 1 reply
believe me, you did the right thing. the friendship you had was unsalvageable, and it's hurting your peace of mind. just remember that you come first before anyone else. 1 reply
