any aro/ace in the chat?

I wanna know how did you guys KNOW? Like really know?

i know this is a common experience for many lgbtq+ people while on a self-discovery journey that they have a phase where they think they are aro/ace because theyre very confused about themselves. I just wanna know how and what made you completely sure you didnt want romantic/sexual attraction.

i have been in (very short) relationships and im extremely confused by myself cause i love the concept of a partner, but when i actually get to be with one (for context im a girl and ive dated two girls), idk if im self sabotaging or i genuinely cant tell the difference between romantic or platonic feelings.
or because of societal pressure of 'you HAVE to be with someone' I'm not sure if im forcing myself to be with someone for the sake of being with someone. or do i have to wait for 'the one'.

...help (￣∇￣")