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so i have been dating my bf for 6 years now and we wanna get married. my parents are happy and support our decision whereas his family will only allow it if i give up my identity i.e change my name to match their ethnicity, shift to their locality and totally integrate into their culture. no compromises. since this is a long standing tradition my bf is in favor of it but i am hesitant to do so bc i take great pride in the name my parents have given me, my culture and identity as a whole. what do you guys think i should do? would it really be worth it to give up my own sense of self for the sake of love?
absolutely not. they want to control and isolate you. that's likely been his expectation the whole time you've known him if it's a "family tradition." this shit is more common than you think. "hey babe let's move closer to where my family are. for US" then bam, you have no friends, no family nearby, no work connections, no one to rely on except him...... reply
