People who romanticise problematic tropes?

What do you think causes it? Do you think it's a combination of desensitisation, disconnection, or something else? For example I remember discovering problematic fiction young, and some classmates discovered it even younger and they were very desensitised, also I noticed some people are less "in tune" with the world
and nature for example I have shit instinct and never catch red flags IRL until it's too late while I know people like my aunt that can immediately tell when someone feels creepy (e.g. celebrities that turned out to be rapists) and she's had crazy numinous experiences an out of body experience during a coma while I feel a lot more disconnected. What are your thoughts? Experiences?