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did i do the right thing
i was talking to this trans girl online for months, we used to chat about normal stuff, college, life. we recently did an audio call and like- she was talking about really uncomfortable things, which idk how I'm supposed to feel about, but it took me a few days to figure out i am disturbed regardless. she was talking about chastity belts/ cock cages. it actually sprung up out of nowhere, and then sex and related topics. i wasn't ready, i thought it would be a light conversation. at the time it didn't register, but it's been feeling so wrong recently. so i confronted her about it on text. but i feel like I've done something wrong and that i have some internalized transphobia. am i being overly sensitive? i don't know any other trans girls, so anyone over here could you please educate me whether chastity belts are like something you guys casually talk about, cause before this i thought it was purely a bdsm thing (something im vehemently repulsed by and against firmly)
wait whaaaat… what do you mean internalized transphobia ? you’re just not comfortable w what she’s talking about and it’s fair as fuck if she’s not talking to you anymore, or act distant just because you spoke up about you being uncomfortable, that’s terrible. she should understand you’re not ready or just not into all that she’s in...... reply
No? Its not transphobia if u just don't like talking about sex. I think that's i mean for very very close ppl to talk abt with. The least they could do is give a warning. reply
You didn't
do anything wrong your just not comfortable with that discussion yet and thats that, its actually better that you confronted her about it rather than just ignoring it, in that way she'll know that maybe your not into that kind of topic qnd not everyone feesls comfortable talking about sex yknow reply
I have a friend who's a trans girl who likes sexual topics like kinks and stuff but we have never talked about chastity belts or any bdsm related stuff. This ain't related to being trans at all U rlly should tell her u aren't comfortable with these topics reply
If both of yall could communicate on how it made u feel and set boundaries then its all good i suppose, maybe ur not into BDSM or any of that stuff at all. Bringing up sex is a topic not everyone will be automatically into, it sometimes needs time or even a heads up in conversations.
I'm not sure how you got to the conclusion that u have internal...... 1 reply
