I don't have anyone to talk to, so I'm posting it here lol... Lately, I keep asking myself why I'm even here, like what's the point... I have no passion, no hobbies, no goals for the future, no dreams, no motivation for anything and I have even less desire to spend most of my life working just to survive and only live for the weekend, repeating the same day over and over until I’m old... I don’t have a social circle either, I’ve always been a loner and I find it really hard to make connections at all, to talk to people..to be honest, I’ve given up on it by now, and even when I do manage to socialize, I always feel like the odd one out (the only interactions I have is basically with users on this site lmao)... I'm kinda just existing..and I just can’t imagine going on living like this for much longer without something to drive me, something that gives me some kind of reason to live and I also can’t imagine growing old someday
Maybe things will get better eventually but right now I just feel so lost and lonely.
Thanks for your replies, everyone. Just knowing that I'm not alone with these feelings helps a little... To everyone who feels the same way, I hope things get better for you someday.
It sounds like you're carrying a lot of quiet weight right now. The kind that doesn’t always show on the outside but slowly builds up over time. Feeling lost like this, especially when it feels like everyone else seems to have direction or connection, can make the world feel incredibly isolating.
A lot of people go through periods where they question the point of everything. When life starts to feel like an endless loop of surviving rather than actually living, it’s easy to lose motivation or feel like there’s nothing meaningful ahead. That feeling doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. Sometimes it just means you’ve been stuck in the same environment, the same routines, or the same loneliness for too long.
You also mentioned feeling like an outsider when you try to socialize. That’s a very real experience for many people who have spent a long time feeling disconnected. When you’re used to being alone, being around others can start to feel unnatural, even if you still want connection deep down. It doesn’t mean you’re incapable of forming relationships. It often just means you haven’t found people who truly make you feel understood yet.
Right now it may feel like you’re simply existing without direction, and that can be a painful place to be. But the absence of passion or purpose today doesn’t mean it can never appear later. Many people discover interests, goals, or relationships much later than they expected. Life isn’t always a straight path where everyone figures everything out early on.
Even the fact that you chose to write this and share how you’re feeling shows that a part of you still wants to be heard and understood. That part of you is important. Feeling lost doesn’t mean you are beyond finding something that gives your life meaning. Sometimes it just means you’re in a chapter where things feel unclear.
You’re not strange or broken for feeling this way. A lot of people quietly struggle with the same thoughts but never say them out loud. The loneliness you described is real, and it deserves compassion rather than judgment.
For now, it’s okay if you don’t have all the answers about your future or your purpose. Sometimes the first step isn’t discovering a grand passion. Sometimes it’s simply allowing yourself to keep going long enough for new experiences, people, or interests to slowly enter your life. Even small moments of connection or curiosity can grow into something meaningful over time.
I’m really glad you shared how you’re feeling here. Even if it’s just a small corner of the internet, your voice still matters.
I feel the exact same... honestly the only reason I'm not depressed (or am I? I don't really know what counts as depression) is that my parents, my only family, are still alive. However, considering their age and health issues I don't think they're going to last that long and I can't help but wonder what will even be the point of me existing once they're gone you know? To be honest, the most joyful moments in my life are when I find a new favorite story to read and it IS pretty depressing now that I think about it. I mean it's not like I ever wanted to die or self-harm or anything, let's be clear, nor will I probably ever want to in the future, but I don't really see the point in living such a life either. I also feel very guilty when I have these thoughts, especially these days, because I think of all the people in the world living heartbreaking tragedies while I'm here unhappy with my objectively privileged and peaceful life, but it's not something you can really control
As someone who has been through this before, here's what I would recommend. If you are an adult, go out and do something. Community can be hard to find but it is genuinely so important. You will find your people eventually, but you have to go out and look for them. Find a club or group or event night that has something to do with any interest you have (if you are a nerd like me try game stores a lot of them do fun nerd events). Also as hard as it feels to take any steps to getting better, therapy and medication can genuinely be life saving (I'm speaking from experience) and ik that not everyone has healthcare or the money for it but if you do I would definitely give it a try. When you find something you like (even if it's something small like a show or a song) hold onto it and take some time do just enjoy it. I know everything might feel empty and useless right now but remember that depression changes how you see and experience the world. And depression can get better. Most importantly remember that you are worth living for. You will only be able to find your passions and joys if you keep on living. Do you really want to give up your only chance to experience that?
I see it as character development. The best characters have all had moments like this. Before you know it you're in a new phase without realizing it. I'm rooting for you all in the back! ╮(￣▽￣)╭(づ￣ ³￣)づ
I feel the same;-; no friends, my hobby and passion doesn't bring joy anymore. I don't have any "advice" to tell you cuz I'm also lost, or words to cheer you on. just know that you're not alone in this. knowing I'm not struggling alone kinda help me with my own problem so I hope it helps you too. I hope you'll manage and find something that spark you joy in life:>
is it comforting to hear omg same? i have no friends i see irl, lowk got bad grades, no job and losing interest in the things around me plus the future is just scary but im really big on fake it till you make it which makes it harder to be depressed because im always pretending not to be depressed. can't offer advice cause im in your boat but at least you know you're not alone or whatever ╮(￣▽￣)╭
Hey, I’m really glad you shared this. It takes a lot of honesty to put something like that into words. What you’re describing—feeling stuck, disconnected, and like life is just repeating without meaning—is something a lot more people experience than it might seem. It doesn’t make you weak or broken.
Passion, goals, and motivation don’t always appear out of nowhere—they often grow slowly from small experiences, new environments, or meeting people who help you see things differently.
You don’t have to figure out your whole life or purpose right now. Sometimes the first step is just letting yourself explore what interests you without pressure.
And if these thoughts have been heavy for a while, it might really help to talk to someone outside the internet too—a counselor, therapist, or support service. Having someone listen in real life can make a huge difference.You’re not alone in feeling this way, even if it feels like it. And the fact that you’re questioning things and looking for meaning actually shows that a part of you still wants something more from life.
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Thanks for your replies, everyone. Just knowing that I'm not alone with these feelings helps a little... To everyone who feels the same way, I hope things get better for you someday.
It sounds like you're carrying a lot of quiet weight right now. The kind that doesn’t always show on the outside but slowly builds up over time. Feeling lost like this, especially when it feels like everyone else seems to have direction or connection, can make the world feel incredibly isolating.
A lot of people go through periods where they question the point of everything. When life starts to feel like an endless loop of surviving rather than actually living, it’s easy to lose motivation or feel like there’s nothing meaningful ahead. That feeling doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. Sometimes it just means you’ve been stuck in the same environment, the same routines, or the same loneliness for too long.
You also mentioned feeling like an outsider when you try to socialize. That’s a very real experience for many people who have spent a long time feeling disconnected. When you’re used to being alone, being around others can start to feel unnatural, even if you still want connection deep down. It doesn’t mean you’re incapable of forming relationships. It often just means you haven’t found people who truly make you feel understood yet.
Right now it may feel like you’re simply existing without direction, and that can be a painful place to be. But the absence of passion or purpose today doesn’t mean it can never appear later. Many people discover interests, goals, or relationships much later than they expected. Life isn’t always a straight path where everyone figures everything out early on.
Even the fact that you chose to write this and share how you’re feeling shows that a part of you still wants to be heard and understood. That part of you is important. Feeling lost doesn’t mean you are beyond finding something that gives your life meaning. Sometimes it just means you’re in a chapter where things feel unclear.
You’re not strange or broken for feeling this way. A lot of people quietly struggle with the same thoughts but never say them out loud. The loneliness you described is real, and it deserves compassion rather than judgment.
For now, it’s okay if you don’t have all the answers about your future or your purpose. Sometimes the first step isn’t discovering a grand passion. Sometimes it’s simply allowing yourself to keep going long enough for new experiences, people, or interests to slowly enter your life. Even small moments of connection or curiosity can grow into something meaningful over time.
I’m really glad you shared how you’re feeling here. Even if it’s just a small corner of the internet, your voice still matters.
I feel the exact same... honestly the only reason I'm not depressed (or am I? I don't really know what counts as depression) is that my parents, my only family, are still alive. However, considering their age and health issues I don't think they're going to last that long and I can't help but wonder what will even be the point of me existing once they're gone you know? To be honest, the most joyful moments in my life are when I find a new favorite story to read and it IS pretty depressing now that I think about it. I mean it's not like I ever wanted to die or self-harm or anything, let's be clear, nor will I probably ever want to in the future, but I don't really see the point in living such a life either. I also feel very guilty when I have these thoughts, especially these days, because I think of all the people in the world living heartbreaking tragedies while I'm here unhappy with my objectively privileged and peaceful life, but it's not something you can really control
As someone who has been through this before, here's what I would recommend. If you are an adult, go out and do something. Community can be hard to find but it is genuinely so important. You will find your people eventually, but you have to go out and look for them. Find a club or group or event night that has something to do with any interest you have (if you are a nerd like me try game stores a lot of them do fun nerd events). Also as hard as it feels to take any steps to getting better, therapy and medication can genuinely be life saving (I'm speaking from experience) and ik that not everyone has healthcare or the money for it but if you do I would definitely give it a try. When you find something you like (even if it's something small like a show or a song) hold onto it and take some time do just enjoy it. I know everything might feel empty and useless right now but remember that depression changes how you see and experience the world. And depression can get better. Most importantly remember that you are worth living for. You will only be able to find your passions and joys if you keep on living. Do you really want to give up your only chance to experience that?
I see it as character development. The best characters have all had moments like this. Before you know it you're in a new phase without realizing it. I'm rooting for you all in the back! ╮(￣▽￣)╭(づ￣ ³￣)づ
I feel the same.
You’re not alone.
I feel the same;-; no friends, my hobby and passion doesn't bring joy anymore. I don't have any "advice" to tell you cuz I'm also lost, or words to cheer you on. just know that you're not alone in this. knowing I'm not struggling alone kinda help me with my own problem so I hope it helps you too. I hope you'll manage and find something that spark you joy in life:>
is it comforting to hear omg same? i have no friends i see irl, lowk got bad grades, no job and losing interest in the things around me plus the future is just scary but im really big on fake it till you make it which makes it harder to be depressed because im always pretending not to be depressed. can't offer advice cause im in your boat but at least you know you're not alone or whatever ╮(￣▽￣)╭
Hey, I’m really glad you shared this. It takes a lot of honesty to put something like that into words. What you’re describing—feeling stuck, disconnected, and like life is just repeating without meaning—is something a lot more people experience than it might seem. It doesn’t make you weak or broken.
Passion, goals, and motivation don’t always appear out of nowhere—they often grow slowly from small experiences, new environments, or meeting people who help you see things differently.
You don’t have to figure out your whole life or purpose right now. Sometimes the first step is just letting yourself explore what interests you without pressure.
And if these thoughts have been heavy for a while, it might really help to talk to someone outside the internet too—a counselor, therapist, or support service. Having someone listen in real life can make a huge difference.You’re not alone in feeling this way, even if it feels like it. And the fact that you’re questioning things and looking for meaning actually shows that a part of you still wants something more from life.
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