Bl omegaverse

I thought that the BL omegaverse genre, which is mostly written by women, was a way to raise awareness about women’s lives in society—by making a male character capable of pregnancy and childbirth in a fictional story, allowing the writer to create a male who experiences what women go through every day.
For example, “heat” represents menstruation, and the sex discrimination against omegas mirrors the discrimination women face, and so on.
But I was shocked, and I realized many things at once. In these stories, writers often make the omega go through all kinds of humiliation, suffering, and abuse—verbal, physical, and sexual—along with gender-based contempt. What’s even more disturbing is that the alpha, who represents the male in real life, despite all the cruelty and mistreatment he inflicts on the omega, is still portrayed as the “hero.”
With all due respect to all writers, without exception—isn’t the purpose of omegaverse to make a man experience the so-called “life of a woman”? Isn’t it supposed to help him understand what a woman goes through?
So why is the abuser or even the rapist made into the endgame?
By doing this, it feels like you’re saying: “We, as women, like being subjected to all kinds of humiliation, and we will always choose the man who hurt us and made us suffer.”
Honestly, I’m not surprised by the prevalence of misogyny. Some women have become so accustomed to toxicity that they’ve started to believe it’s what they deserve.
Note: I am specifically referring only to the BL omegaverse genre