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i always get told to be quieter in public
like i always get told to be quieter cause its embarrassing that im talking but im just a girl who left the nest after being suppressed like ik if im being too loud i always match my voice to the suroundings but it just hurts me that people think i should be embarrassed just for expressing myself but also like i showed my tired face today after told to be quieter because a was talking about a design flaw of a calendar but i also just think that i should say smthing back but its kinda hard yo do that because i dont want to hurt or cause misunderstanding with others cause i dwell on it
i think to be "quieter" is a comment on ur decibels btw, not ur personality. u can always keep ur enthusiasm while lowering the projection. nd instead of waiting for someone to shush u (which feels like a reprimand), u can occasionally ask ur friends, "am i being a bit loud? *say ur reason why*" or js say that ure excited about it bc in that way, i...... reply
i'm the one that tells people to keep their voices down not bc it's embarrassing though, i just think it's kinda rude to be loud in quiet spaces (like a library for example) or when smt specific can be done quietly but they are loud and annnoying (taking a phone call really loud in public) but i also get loud in places it's needed, when i'm having...... 1 reply
I also get told I talk too much, but I can talk for 4 hours straight with almost anyone. Not small talk either, an actual conversation. I like to call it nerd ranting, but it isn't one-sided since the conversation is kept going by the other person too. I could probably go longer, but the other person or I have always had to leave by the 4-hour mark...... reply
I naturally have a rather loud volume BC my hearing is wack and I'm used to public speaking back in school years and so on.
When I'm in public I try to keep my volume down BC I don't want to be inconsiderate of other people.
The conversation is between you and your company, not everyone in the store.
I think if someone asked you to lowen volume ...... reply
from someone who hates loud people, in case it helps:
how I react to loud people:
~if you are a stranger -> I will not tell you, I just think you are rude/inconsiderate and move on because it's rude for me to tell you to shut up.
~if you are acquaintance -> I will not tell you, I just stop being acquaintances with you because it's rude for me to ...... 3 reply
Same,
I am naturally very loud, even more so when excited or drunk. I do not care that is just who I am. I hate when people tell me to quiet down, bc I feel like i am changing myself, also we are literally on a rock, all we have is being alive, why can I not be as loud as I want. Who are they to tell me to be quiet. People saying it’s rude to be...... reply
i lowkey have the opposite problem but its just as embarrassing. im really quiet and anxious and i overthink about what to say, and sometimes it causes my words to not come out of my throat at all. people also tell me to speak louder but it feels impossible to since i hate loudness, but ofc i try to reply
