Lavender marriage

I see a lot of cishet people saying they want lavender marriage as in marrying a gay person. I hate it so much. Just bcs you hate men, etc.
No, this is not about platonic marriage. If it is, good for them but... It's like they're undermining the struggles of queer people and implying that gay people can't find love or happiness on their own. The LGBTQ+ community has fought hard for their rights and recognition and it's hurtful to see people taking that for granted?!?!?!
I live in a conservative country. Even so i don't want to marry out of convenience. I'll fought for my love right.