i need some advice+this is a rant

THIS GUY, a friend of mine, hes very sweet and nice and lives in another area where im gonna move, so basically he talks about us meeting and it leading up to us kissing and like flirting and all, i dont mind that its whatever but, i feel like hes just flirting with me to maybe be able to kiss me?? idk and once i asked him if he does, he said no but if i feel that way then he cant do anything and apparently like its talking to a wall cause he explained that he likes me?? and started telling me its not a big deal that i just do this to protect myself and its not that serious as i make it to be. I WANT yall to listen to my side alr, i want to kiss or have sex only with someone im close to OBVIOUSLY, either my boyfriend or husband, and he agreed with me but he still told me in a very nice way that i was taking it all too seriously and its not that big of a deal and honestly idk what he wants from me? does he like me? does he just want to makeout with me or does he want a relationship (also ive never dated before so i dont wanna be taken advantage of and im pretty naive when it comes to these topics). WHY DOES THIS HAPPEN TO ME WTF STOP I HATE MEN YOU GUYS ARE SO EVIL I WISH I WAS A LESBIAN OMG PLEASE WTF