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Is it bad that I feel jealous of a friend I taught how to write? (vent)
I really need to get this off my chest. I’ve been into writing for a while, and recently, I taught a friend who became interested in it the ropes: how to post, which platforms to use, and even some writing tips. But now, they’ve actually become better than me, and their work is getting way more attention. I know it’s not their fault for being talented, and i should probably be proud but I can’t help feeling hella jealous and insecure. It’s reaching a point where I’m honestly considering quitting because I feel like I’ll never be good enough...
P.S. Please don't ask for the links to our works! I’d like to keep everything anonymous to protect our privacy, plus I'm not really looking for a comparison lol. I just needed to let this out
Being completely empathetic, I understand how tough this must be for you and the best advice I can give you is that your standard of good is subjective since I assume you’re somewhat of a novice, so be easy on yourself. Take merit in your own writing and hone your own skills. And know that it’s okay to maybe even learn from your friend if you ...... reply
I'm not gonna compare the two of you or say yours could be better, I'm saying don't quit. Jealousy is normal and what you feel is totally valid, however you shouldn't let this pull you down. You are still good at what you do, you can still write and be unique in your OWN way. Don't compare yourself to them because you two aren't the same, try to pu...... reply
just because someone's story is getting more attention doesn't mean they're a better writer than you. readers naturally drift towards tropes and cliches they're familiar with. romantasy's one of the most popular, best selling genres today. doesn't mean they're the best written. if you truly think they're better at writing, then analyze why. are the...... reply
I feel you. I myself have a fear of feeling like this someday. It's a struggle. You genuinely love to help and teach but dread the idea of them getting better than you at the same time. I have come to make peace with it for the most part. I tell myself that I have nothing to feel insecure about, since them being good at the task shows that I was a ...... reply
My teacher sat the “class clown” next to me so I could tutor him. Younger me took this very seriously. I got a 92 on am exam and was slightly frustrated but all together was accepting. I look over to my protege to see my results and he had a 98. I got up and walked away
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Girl you're literally living my life. I had a friend who was like that as well. Even though I had been writing for longer, theirs kept getting recognised in lieu of me, worse part is that the ones that got recognition were based on the exact same themes which they "borrowed" from me. Yeah I was really pissed off, I just couldn't see how they were b...... 1 reply
Ik it’s very difficult to stop comparisons and the feelings of insecurity- I’ve been there before way too many times. And as someone that’s went through your situation, let me tell you: comparison is indeed the thief of joy.
You are reaching a point where this feeling takes away the joy from a hobby that you’ve enjoyed for quite a while- ...... reply
it's ok to feel that way. sometimes, people can be more good in performing the things that you taught them BUT always remember that if YOU didn't TEACH them, they will never reach that stage.
believe in your own potential, not everyone can do what you can do. DON'T BE A QUITTER!!! FIGHTING!!╰(*´︶`*)╯ reply
Tysm everyone for the words and the different perspectives, I really needed to hear some of this XD
Tbh, I still feel a bit jealous about the recognition and creativity part (can't lie, I'm only human), but reading yall comments definitely made me feel less insecure, I’m glad I shared this here (..◜ᴗ◝..) reply
