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How to deal with racism
Okay so I'm still a teenager, and I already feel hopeless about racism I'm black obvs, and I thought Id accepted how hopeless the situation is but I can't help but feel upset. And it just makes me cry, because I can't change my skin tone and I can't make people perceive my skin tone differently.
Even people I thought were my friends have this subconscious bias of me, they think I'm dumber, more aggressive, meaner. I just don't get it and I'm tired. No matter how much logic and reasoning you give a racist, nothing ever changes. Even those of you reading this who think you're not racist, if you look deep enough, you will find racism. Me included. No one is safe from it. But being a black woman, one of the most hated races is just, idk. With black men, at least they can ditch their blackness by prioritising their identity as men, but being black and a woman is like, it's a whole seperate category that I can never escape from. I can't just ditch being black and stick with woman, because Ill be shunned by women who see me as rough and loud off the getgo. And I can't ignore my identity as a woman to embrace my blackness because misogynoir is very much real in the black community.
I love being a black woman, I truly do, but when simple videos of black babies having fun, or black women commenting on the mundane draw hundreds of racist comments. Seeing a surge in Japanese people who have never even once spoken to a black person say they're scared of black people. Listening to my own friend tell me his entire group of friends dislike black women in particular, not the men no but the women. Black men too hate black women, it just gets fucking tiring. I wish I lived on a planet of only black women and I'm finding it increasingly harder to stay full of love and see the best in people because truly you never know who's a racist. It's more than just being afraid of what people think, people are KILLED for their skin tone. Not to mention I live in Scotland. They're friendly over here, but you can absolutely sense that they view you differently. I'm so tired. I can't even try rely on escapism in media because there will always be either a racist caricature or the darker skinned character is barbaric/strong, or they're just plot fodder and never important.
I'm just tired. And that's why it pisses me off when people dismiss racism in Asian media because there are real people like me who suffer the consequences of this racism and know there is NOTHING they can EVER do about it.
Sorry a bit of a rant but I truly have no where else to go I'm on my last straw lol
you can't always stop yourself from worrying about how other people perceive you, especially when it's relevant to your general well-being and safety, but you can refocus your thoughts and energy. self-actualize! who do you want to be in the world, and how do you get there?
you know who you are better than the people who make assumptions (and if yo...... 1 reply
Im a mixed kid who got adopted into a white household and the amount of unconscious racist comments they tell me is crazy. It’s so draining to be around white people 24/7 weather it be at school or at home, and either get racist derogatory comments from my parents, or racist comments passed off as jokes by my friends. Im tired of having to argue ...... 1 reply
Amen girl! A world of Black women sounds like paradise.
I agree with everything you said. I grew up in NYC where the people are very diverse and the impact of racism was still felt. You made several good points.
1. The intersection of being Black and a woman to made a separate experience from either oppressed group.
2. Internalized racism. Ab...... 1 reply
You personally can’t do anything except maintain your own standards, call people out, make it awkward. Feeling defeat won’t stop anything but even a small act such as leaving a rational comment can help you feel better. I’m so sorry you have to go through this. ️ 1 reply
if im honest you’ve just got to stop thinking about it, while it sounds harsh you’ve just got to wake up one day and essentially ‘get over it’ more in the media / social aspects of racism. You’ll come to a realisation how the monetisation of many platforms now provides an easy way for grifters to profit and majority of the times they’re...... 2 reply
You can't change your race, friend. But those people can change their way of thinking. Anyway, it's not your responsibility; the point is that you should always stay true to yourself ! 1 reply
There's nothing long to tell but it's to stop caring.
Sounds counter-intuitive but really why appeal to a bunch of ignorant assholes, others who face or have experienced mistreatment will only focus on being emotionally charged.
For situations you're describing, not physical attacks or assaults though I of the understanding of how ignorance and fea...... 1 reply
