why do you think girls love yaoi?

I have been a bl/yaoi fan for years, its one of my favorite hobbies to read stuff here and on ao3 about my fav ships and sometimes when i get fixated on a bl/ship it consumes my whole mind.

My question is why does that happen? i have some observations but i would love tp hear yall and maybe have a discussion
- straight romance is too stereotypical - you kinda always know what will the characters do how they will react. its like there is a model female character and a model male character and the characters dont ever develop past the sterotype. with mlm there is so much more variety about the relationships, without being stereotypical
- when i read bl i am purely an observer and enjoyer. when there isnt a character of my gender in the story i dont subconsciously try to 'relate' to them or compare my decisions with theirs. when there is a girl love interest i am always like wait i wouldnt do that, why would she do that and etc - basically not putting myself in the shoes of the character allows me to fully enter the fantasy
- kinda surface level but as a straight girl its nice to see hot guys making out naked lol
- seeing men express emotions, vulnerability by not being confined to the strong straight male love interest.
- maybe controversial but there is something taboo about it which makes it more appealing - i guess a lot of the yaoi fans (me included) dont talk about it with irl friends and keep it lowkey. when you are done with your day, with dealing with people and so on you get to have your special yaoi time - makes it even more exciting


so that is what i can think of now pls tell me what do you think