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Am I a a-hole for this?
Okay, so boom. I reach out to this super cute guy in my grade. I graduated a full year ahead of my class, so I'm going to college in the fall in a different town. I made this super clear to him, and that I was just wanting to talk/be friends. But I lowkee kinda put myself in the thought process that things could work out with him. He apparently confessed to me on a call when I fell asleep, and that honestly ticked me off when he told me over messages. Then, not even 4 days later, he makes a joke calling me a slut and some other things, but I play it off as a joke because we're about to go on a date the following day. The date went well, but he just kept on giving me the ick. I made it very clear to him that I don't like being called terms that put me down as a woman, and he laughed it off. So I ghosted him. He's been messaging me every fucking hour for the last 4-5 days. I haven't been on any of my social apps because I'm too much of a wimp to block him on everything, because that just means he could bother me with alt accounts if he were desperate enough. (I've been stalked by 2 guys, and would prefer not to have it happen again.) There's more to the story, but I won't tell unless someone wants to be nosy
No, immediate red flag joking about you being a ‘slut’. he doesn’t deserve any response from you and he knows what he did wrong, they usually do. you don’t need to explain anything to him. 1 reply
No wtf?? If you made it abundantly clear to him that you don’t like being degraded and he continues to bother you, he is essentially harassing you. and that’s fully justifiable for ghosting him 1 reply
i don't think so but you should just talk to him once
girlie listen if a person gives you the bad ick or ur instincts tell you to leave them, then leave them. you don't have to love someone if it comes at the cost of loving yourself.
but just talk to them once cause in the future u're gonna regret not knowing the full story and u'll be thinking of...... reply
no. and i dont think you should listen to these people telling you to hear him out or talk to him about it again. you already told him the problem. youre not obligated to hold his hand and walk him through it. me personally ill usually give people like a few chances where i tell them the issue and let them figure it out, but theres not much you can...... reply
Absolutely not! I would advise to sit him down and tell him what he says hurts you however, as I feel its always good to get clarity. If he continues, he doesn't care and you shouldn't be with someone who doesn't care. xoxo!(づ￣ ³￣)づ 2 reply
