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I feel worse for women when theyre in a relationship with a secretly gay man.
I'm sorry, I've been rereading the summer hikaru died and it's so obvious the father is gay and everytime people in the fandom talk about it it's all "poor him" "doomed yaoi with hikarus dad" but what about the woman being deceived? What about the woman giving HER body to bring children into the world with a man who is LYING to her. Im sorry but if you're a grown man you have to either decide to stay single or cut off your family and go live your gay man life leave women alone. Obviously I feel sympathy for them but c'mon even if you don't wanna come out just stay single.
idk why ppl are trying to act as if it's the same when the woman is the one closeted. "i feel bad for all straight ppl" or "i feel bad regardless of gender" well yes fucking obviously but op is calling out specifically how WOMEN'S entire lives change after marriage. are men expected/pressured/brainwashed to birth a child? quit their job? become an ...... 2 reply
i feel bad for EVERY straight person that's dating/is married to a gay person and they don't know it. It HURTS to give your love to someone, and not knowing you're just a cover for them reply
i don’t think it’s that easy though. if you take Brokeback Mountain as an example, ennis has internalized homophobia, which makes it impossible for him to settle down with jack and have a real proper relationship.
i agree that it’s not fair for the woman who they are dating, but it’s not easy to just come out and live your life as you wan...... 2 reply
You just reminded me of my deep hatred of queer people who do this. Specifically those who decide to come out after 30 years of dating their partner bc theyre always treated like victims, meanwhile the straight person can't complain about it bc otherwise they get treated like a raging homophobic even tho they got betrayed by the person who was supp...... 4 reply
I will say it again: people who say this have never lived in conservative countries and never understand what the actual results of not getting married are. I'm a lesbian who fought to not get married. But you know what happened after I didn't get married? Yes, my family knows I'm a lesbian now even though I'm straight-passing, and I never came out...... 1 reply
So I watched a YT clip...
Did you guys know 20% of black swans are gay. As they can't lay eggs a male seduces a female swan and as soon as she lays her eggs both male chases her out of the nest.
As swans often mate for life, the deception and betrayal is all the more tragic. 2 reply
And also for lesbian women this is a VERY different situation, i still feel bad for men getting lied to but lesbian women are still women not only dealing with homophobia but misogyny too and being raised with marriage and a family as the big goal of their lives, i still believe people who won't come out should make the choice to be single but ther...... reply
I remember bringing this up in a tiktok comment section and I got so attacked over it. You're soo right with the last part of your statement, nobody's literally going to witchhunt you for staying single 'cause you're queer and you don't wanna get married to a straight. Atleast not anymore, it's 2026 come on now. reply
I mean I always feel bad for the partner who's married to a closeted person, no matter their gender tbh.
But yes I agree, people prefer to sympathise and feel bad for the queer person but genuinely don't gaf about the partner who was being deceived. Sometimes when the partner even gets rightfully upset about their relationship being basically a li...... 1 reply
that's the tragedy of heteronormativity and the pressure to reproduce in a specific prescribed way. it has negative consequences for everyone involved. women, straight or queer, who end up in closeted partnerships bear the brunt of having their domestic, reproductive, and emotional labor used and exploited by the men they are partnered with because...... 2 reply
