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Relationship Advice
My partner said she needs space but doesn’t want to break up. She has been bad to me over the past few months. She promises me she’ll get better, but she always promises that. She has intense trauma that she needs to work through, is it bad for me to want to leave after being treated harshly repeatedly? She also deals with depression. It feels wrong to want to leave even though she’s going through it but it’s to the point it’s effecting me. I said that if you want this relationship to work you need to focus on getting better. To that she said It’s impossible for me to be better so soon. But what I’m asking is for her to at least have a plan and take initiative. I’m not asking for her to be suddenly “fixed” I have my own problems but I don’t take it out on her. All im asking is for her to just try. Any advice? I can go into further detail if more context is needed.
it is never bad to want to leave someone. you don't owe anyone who treats you poorly your loyalty. leaving is hard for many reasons, but if you know in your heart it's the right thing for *you* to do, you should break up.
aside from that: you can't expect a person with mental health issues to get better for you, for your relationship, or on your t...... 1 reply
Twin, just leave her. If you felt the need to ask other people what you should do cause u feel so conflicted, its pretty obvious what you should do. 1 reply
Just leave her , mahn .. its not right to ignore your mental health and feelings over someone else's . Plus , if she isnt even willing to put effort into improving herself , what makes you think she is willing to put effort into the relationship :') .. your feeling is totally valid . I understand traumas and mental health issues takes time to heal...... 1 reply
I had a relationship like this when I was young; both of had issues though, but she had worse, it affected me terribly even though she herself didn't seem to be affected as such. She also never took the initiative to actually be better - one can argue when youre young it's not easy to access or afford resources - but it genuinely will not get bett...... 1 reply
