Am i wrong? People on the internet keep saying that i'm right

I wonder if this is because i describe things from my view, but i think that if you look at this from all sides it's still bad , people say that social media did this to me , mom said " why are you so obsessed with the man and woman thing , you were so insecure about it from childhood" , that's because i told her to stop letting my father treat her like this, she says " it's not like he hits me " , but he break things in the house, let me discribe things from a bigger view, my father is a good father from people's view in our society, he works ( mom does too ) , and he goes to the grocery store because women are not allowed to go outside lol , he doesn't hit mom , he's nice most of the time, but he is so obsessed with masculinity, i don't know really how to discribe it but he thinks that he's cool wherever he talks to us in a bad way , yes the older generation loved this kind of men , when i said to mom " if you break things because you're mad while you're a woman, would is be normal" , she said " you're sick , your father is a man , i feel so bad for him that his daughter thinks this way , he did that to show me that i was wrong" ( what she did wrong is that she felt guilty because she heard months ago that her aunt used to be beaten by her husband , my mom thoughts that it's just a rumor and didn't bother herself until her aunt died two months ago ), i don't really understand what is wrong with that, but yeah my mother thinks it's okay for men to do this, she will always stand in my father side , i don't really understand if i should hate them or not , it's so weird when your family loves you but they are.... Like that