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I mean, you're thinking about it for a reason. It doesn't make you stupid. Maybe you feel hurt by the situation. It sounds like he used you and distancing after being intimate can be hurtful. Kind of like, he was talking to you but then he got what he wanted so all of his friendliness was just a means to an end. If I'm reading the situation correct......   1 reply

I don't have adhd but my spouse does and he recently got a formal diagnosis. It was really validating for him to have the tests done that prove it and to what degree. I think it's worth going but it might be better to frame it as you suspect you have it and you'd like to get a formal diagnosis and explore options on how to manage it.   reply

First, if they want to see her in you they're going to no matter what you do. It's not in your control. Second, instead of holding yourself up to standards you perceive that you are failing, recognize that you are setting yourself up to fail. We do that when we hate ourselves because it gives us confirmation that we should be hating ourselves. Fina......   reply

Therapy, babes. There are reasons you feel this way, probably developed in childhood. There are deep wounds that lead to self harm and self hatred. See if you can make an appointment with your school counselor when you go back just so you can talk about the friend issues. Believe that you are worth getting help and worth learning to love yourself ......   1 reply

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I don't do research in this area and not sure if it will help but I have a research tip that might be useful. I always start with Google Scholar. It is not a search engine like it advertises, but if you use it like a reverse bibliography it becomes soooo much more useful. If you can find even one article that is helpful to you, first always look a......   reply

YES highly recommend and if you're gonna do it get someone specialized in cognitive behavioral therapy and trauma-informed therapy and not just talk therapy if you want to dig deep and really resolve issues. There are a ton of cool and effective techniques like brain spotting and EMDR that target specific memories/places in your brain that trauma i......   reply

I was thinking about this a few weeks ago. Is it because of the romance genre generally (like the girl is usually the mc in hetero romance stories) or is it something else?   reply

PhD student in liberal arts. I teach college for peanuts until i finish my dissertation and then I'll teach the same courses for 6x more money ️   reply

Came across a sora/riku kingdom hearts fan comic featured on the homepage of deviantart when i was in late elementary/early middle school and the rest was history. Got into fan comics/doujin, fan fic, and eventually bl manga and anime. Shout out to junjou romantica, first bl manga. still love it i just reread it last week lol   reply

You never know whether you're going to like something until you try it. You're getting a sample of what this life will be like and you're learning maybe it isnt your cup of tea anymore. At the end of the day, your friends and family arent the ones who will have to work the job you hate -- you will. So if you're seeing signs that this might not be s......   reply