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1. Women are responsible for what men do.
2. Women saying no to men is a hate crime.
3. Women speaking for themselves are exclusionary and selfish.
4. Women’s opinions are violence against men, thus male violence against women is justified.
5. Women and Feminism must be useful to men or they are worthless.
6. Women who go around being female AT men by menstruating and breastfeeding babies deserve punishment.
7. Women should always be grateful to men for everything.
8. Men are whatever men say they are and women are whatever men say they are.
9. Men always know the “real reasons” for everything women do and say.
10. The worst thing about male violence is that it makes men look bad.
11. Whatever women suffer from, it is worse when it happens to men.
12. Women’s ability to recognize male behavior patterns is misandry.
13. Angry women are crazy. Angry men have trouble expressing themselves.
14. Women have all the rights they need: The right to remain silent.
15. Men are the default human. Women are strange subhuman others.
16. Everyone owns and controls women’s bodies except the women themselves.
I came across these rules and it made me realise that alot of bad faith arguments as well as all the crimes and discrimination can be traced back to these points.
2. Women saying no to men is a hate crime.
3. Women speaking for themselves are exclusionary and selfish.
4. Women’s opinions are violence against men, thus male violence against women is justified.
5. Women and Feminism must be useful to men or they are worthless.
6. Women who go around being female AT men by menstruating and breastfeeding babies deserve punishment.
7. Women should always be grateful to men for everything.
8. Men are whatever men say they are and women are whatever men say they are.
9. Men always know the “real reasons” for everything women do and say.
10. The worst thing about male violence is that it makes men look bad.
11. Whatever women suffer from, it is worse when it happens to men.
12. Women’s ability to recognize male behavior patterns is misandry.
13. Angry women are crazy. Angry men have trouble expressing themselves.
14. Women have all the rights they need: The right to remain silent.
15. Men are the default human. Women are strange subhuman others.
16. Everyone owns and controls women’s bodies except the women themselves.
I came across these rules and it made me realise that alot of bad faith arguments as well as all the crimes and discrimination can be traced back to these points.
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yeah the title is funny but hear me out, i'm bi. but sometimes i feel like I'm so fricking gay. like, i don't even want men or something (also bc men are so fucking uncompetetive when it comes to dating i've given up before even trying). and i love women (★v★) lately i am feeling like i can't find men attractive anymore, not bc their looks or anything (well, most of them are chopped anyway) but more bc of their personality. it's like they NEVER consider women as true humans, even the most feminist of men will still look at women as women first and not consider them as true humans (for some reason, they're incapable of this, idk) and women are so nice and amazing and i love them! but i do feel attraction to men's faces/features though. it's like i see men as muses, i love the idea of them, but i never myself give them the liberty of being “them”. they should be perfect men in order for me to be like, yeah i like this guy. maybe i'm a #womaninmalefields. with women, i'm more of an observer, if I like a woman, i like her completely, i don't put her in bounds, i enjoy her company, i like listening to her opinions. with men, it's like i am walking on eggshells, that he'll say something that is so baffling i won't even believe he's serious. it feels like i'm constantly watching my footsteps or being conscious around them. it feels like a cognitive dissonance, to like someone whom i also am afraid of, in general.
this makes me drift towards women, but where i live, being open in a wlw relationships is not only problematic, people find it either “not real” or fetishize it. the jokes of “scissoring” or the boys thinking i look at women the same way they look at women, and how they degrade women and think they're complementing them. while straight women either dismiss me being bi or question me endlessly on what is my type in women, or if i like them, and if not, why? also, I find it wierd when straight women flirt with me in a friendly manner, i know they're joking and it's fine mostly, but it would be so wierd if *i* do the same, bc then it would feel awkward, as i DO INFACT am capable of romantically liking women. so my flirting is seen as serious while theirs is not.
i'm sorry if it felt like a rant. bc it was lol. it's like i'm battling with this dilemma of finding men attractive while also knowing they are in general, VILE people who don't look at women as humans. and finding women attractive but feeling like an odd one out bc i am scared to be in a relationship with a woman in the society i live in, it won't be considered serious enough, or real enough, and i'm a person who doesn't like doing casual relationships, so what if we're commited and parents are against it? and society shuns is? we get beaten up or worse things like that? i need to get financially independent. i don't even know how to approach a woman bc it feels so scary, what if she's not into women and feels threatened by me?(people in my area don't have good image of people attracted to same gender, they find it 'wierd')
i end up being in this place where i feel like i'm not straight enough for the heterosexuals and not gay enough for the homosexuals. and i feel like i have no hope for romance in my life.
this makes me drift towards women, but where i live, being open in a wlw relationships is not only problematic, people find it either “not real” or fetishize it. the jokes of “scissoring” or the boys thinking i look at women the same way they look at women, and how they degrade women and think they're complementing them. while straight women either dismiss me being bi or question me endlessly on what is my type in women, or if i like them, and if not, why? also, I find it wierd when straight women flirt with me in a friendly manner, i know they're joking and it's fine mostly, but it would be so wierd if *i* do the same, bc then it would feel awkward, as i DO INFACT am capable of romantically liking women. so my flirting is seen as serious while theirs is not.
i'm sorry if it felt like a rant. bc it was lol. it's like i'm battling with this dilemma of finding men attractive while also knowing they are in general, VILE people who don't look at women as humans. and finding women attractive but feeling like an odd one out bc i am scared to be in a relationship with a woman in the society i live in, it won't be considered serious enough, or real enough, and i'm a person who doesn't like doing casual relationships, so what if we're commited and parents are against it? and society shuns is? we get beaten up or worse things like that? i need to get financially independent. i don't even know how to approach a woman bc it feels so scary, what if she's not into women and feels threatened by me?(people in my area don't have good image of people attracted to same gender, they find it 'wierd')
i end up being in this place where i feel like i'm not straight enough for the heterosexuals and not gay enough for the homosexuals. and i feel like i have no hope for romance in my life.
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im sorry if it's TMi can any girl tell me how to jerk off im genuinely so scared of doing it but im so frustrated UGH T_T like im scared to put fingers inside my vajayjay also i tried doing it but it doesn't feel good it feels wierd and scary and idk how to do it either. (im sorry if it is too TMI idk who else to ask?) for reference im 22.
i was reading this one yaoi(it was "dawning light" for ref T_T im a certified gooner now i got so turned on like my pants are wet for some reason idk why i am wet most times like not sexually just the discharge is more(?) there's no problem it's been like that since like, FOREVER. there are no down there problems or anything. fuck i hate when my pussy wet for no reason now what to do T_T it looks like i pissed myself.
also yes im gonna delete this once i get any helpful answers this is not a troll post please help a girl out i beg, im sorryy T_T
god im gonna be called a gooner fujo from now im so embarrassed. why is being turned on so embarrassing im not even sexually attracted to no one irl or even in fiction (maybe oh inseop from for your murder lord psychopaths do it for me so good)
thanks in advance
i was reading this one yaoi(it was "dawning light" for ref T_T im a certified gooner now i got so turned on like my pants are wet for some reason idk why i am wet most times like not sexually just the discharge is more(?) there's no problem it's been like that since like, FOREVER. there are no down there problems or anything. fuck i hate when my pussy wet for no reason now what to do T_T it looks like i pissed myself.
also yes im gonna delete this once i get any helpful answers this is not a troll post please help a girl out i beg, im sorryy T_T
god im gonna be called a gooner fujo from now im so embarrassed. why is being turned on so embarrassing im not even sexually attracted to no one irl or even in fiction (maybe oh inseop from for your murder lord psychopaths do it for me so good)
thanks in advance
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i am reading this very popular fanfic of satosugu (“achilles, come down” by “hotcocoaaa” on AO3) and i normally do not read many fanfics. reading fanfics made me realise that i genuinely love and miss them alot more than i thought i did. and i really think i miss them alot. i just love them so much T_T. you guys must be thinking i'm so mentally unwell bc i keep bringing stsg up everyday on here on mangago T_T.
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i personally do not understand why there's so much rape in yaoi. and it's not a recent thing either. alot of older yaoi(finder series, gravitation, dakaichi, etc) have rape in it. and some of the older resident fujoshis still talk about those in nostalgic way, even though they know it did have rape and SA and other problematic elements in it. all the popular yaoi have mostly been filled with rape, no matter the time. why do you think this normalisation of SA comes from? if yaoi is mostly catered to women, doesn't it make more sense that women would feel negatively about rape in stories since women are victims of such crimes irl more than men?
so what could be the possible reasons? is this some kind of sick rape revenge mentality? or is it a sick fetish of wanting to rape men if they were a man?
it's something that feels so misogynist even though i cant put down a finger where.
i want to know this from a person who's been a "resident fujoshi/fudanshi" and was in the yaoi genre early on (late 00s or early 10s maybe?) I have been in the BL community since 2018-19 and rape is something i have never understood. i personally don't read yuri this much, but overall yuri doesn't have this much normalisation of rape (as much as i have seen atleast). that doesn't mean yuri genre doesn't have problematic stories, it just isn't as mainstream to have a rape scene in yuri.
so why do you think yaoi has so much rape and SA? what could be the reason behind it?
so what could be the possible reasons? is this some kind of sick rape revenge mentality? or is it a sick fetish of wanting to rape men if they were a man?
it's something that feels so misogynist even though i cant put down a finger where.
i want to know this from a person who's been a "resident fujoshi/fudanshi" and was in the yaoi genre early on (late 00s or early 10s maybe?) I have been in the BL community since 2018-19 and rape is something i have never understood. i personally don't read yuri this much, but overall yuri doesn't have this much normalisation of rape (as much as i have seen atleast). that doesn't mean yuri genre doesn't have problematic stories, it just isn't as mainstream to have a rape scene in yuri.
so why do you think yaoi has so much rape and SA? what could be the reason behind it?
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it's seriously so difficult sometimes to be on the asexual spectrum. because firstly, majority don't even understand you T_T. they think asexual=no libido. while it can be true for some of the aces, it's not true for ALL of them. it's like saying all gay men like feminine stuff. might be true, but not really. also, they just do not understand that just because aces don't feel sexual attraction, they don't have libido.
secondly, it's so DIFFICULT managing your libido as an asexual. it's frustrating. it's like you're hungry and no food looks eatable. genuinely. and you're literally crying bc you're so hungry but the thought of eating borderline make you want to puke. going through my ovulation week rn (probably) AND ITS HELL. please stop!
and i cant even express this frustration to anyone, bc i genuinely do not even feel like masturbating. like seriously, it doesn't even get me off T_T. it just builds and builds and no peak is reached. great! now i'm even more frustrated.
having said that, i dont know about allosexual experience. what do they feel, how it is for them, how hell ovulation week is for them or menstruation week, i don't know. im not saying allosexuals have it easy, not my intention. but AGH, sometimes i wish i felt sexual attraction so i could just be "normal" T_T. (i know aces are normal as well, but i mean it in a present society's amatonormative heteronormative sense)
like seriously, i cant even read yaoi or yuri or even straight stories with romance or smut rn bc it's frustrating me T_T.
secondly, it's so DIFFICULT managing your libido as an asexual. it's frustrating. it's like you're hungry and no food looks eatable. genuinely. and you're literally crying bc you're so hungry but the thought of eating borderline make you want to puke. going through my ovulation week rn (probably) AND ITS HELL. please stop!
and i cant even express this frustration to anyone, bc i genuinely do not even feel like masturbating. like seriously, it doesn't even get me off T_T. it just builds and builds and no peak is reached. great! now i'm even more frustrated.
having said that, i dont know about allosexual experience. what do they feel, how it is for them, how hell ovulation week is for them or menstruation week, i don't know. im not saying allosexuals have it easy, not my intention. but AGH, sometimes i wish i felt sexual attraction so i could just be "normal" T_T. (i know aces are normal as well, but i mean it in a present society's amatonormative heteronormative sense)
like seriously, i cant even read yaoi or yuri or even straight stories with romance or smut rn bc it's frustrating me T_T.
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I haven't watched the anime yet but just the clips on youtube. Out of context it looks so gay and honestly, there's no heterosexual explanation for anything these men do. Naruto and Sasuke are so gay for each other that it's right in your face. Then there are Obito and Kakashi, and Madara and Hashirama.
It's like they're the blueprint for yaoi.
I guess it's true that misogyny makes every man gay XD. (While also hating them for being gay). I think this misogyny→gay pipeline is pretty evident and needs to be studied. Naruto is gay, because misogyny. My hero academia is gay because, misogyny. Jujutsu Kaisen is gay because, well I guess they're just HOMOSEXUALS that's why. And also a bit of misogyny.
Its telling how patriarchy makes men “homosocial” to say the least and then hates on LGBTQ+ community. As if misogyny isn't the biggest reason men can't have healthy relationships with women. I definitely feel that alot of women prefer yaoi BECAUSE they crave equality and a power balance in relationships which heterosexual relationships can never bring because gender has a power imbalance attached to it. You're on a lower staircase if you're a woman. (Not saying gay relationships don't have power imbalances, but they're not inherent because of gender).
What do y'all think about Naruto, what are your fav ships?(Yes, ofcourse you can say SNS), and would y'all put Naruto in doomed BL category (like, brokeback mountain where they had a family but were still in love with each other)?
It's like they're the blueprint for yaoi.
I guess it's true that misogyny makes every man gay XD. (While also hating them for being gay). I think this misogyny→gay pipeline is pretty evident and needs to be studied. Naruto is gay, because misogyny. My hero academia is gay because, misogyny. Jujutsu Kaisen is gay because, well I guess they're just HOMOSEXUALS that's why. And also a bit of misogyny.
Its telling how patriarchy makes men “homosocial” to say the least and then hates on LGBTQ+ community. As if misogyny isn't the biggest reason men can't have healthy relationships with women. I definitely feel that alot of women prefer yaoi BECAUSE they crave equality and a power balance in relationships which heterosexual relationships can never bring because gender has a power imbalance attached to it. You're on a lower staircase if you're a woman. (Not saying gay relationships don't have power imbalances, but they're not inherent because of gender).
What do y'all think about Naruto, what are your fav ships?(Yes, ofcourse you can say SNS), and would y'all put Naruto in doomed BL category (like, brokeback mountain where they had a family but were still in love with each other)?
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i feel like im lowkey a misandrist bc i don't think misandry is bad or anything, it's not systematic as misogyny. plus, its mostly as a retaliation to misogyny. also, i feel i am very radical feminist because why do I get angry every time i see a woman willingly has a boyfriend?!?! i don't think any man is completely devoid of misogyny and they'll always be much harder to convince that their views are misogynist. i also think men (in this cis hetero patriarchal society) can't ever truly love women. also, heterosexual relationships can't work in this society. they just can't. i am so conflicted about my feelings for men, because i am attracted to them but it also feels like dating a man is such a humiliation ritual. i also feel i'm much comfortable with women, and form bonds with women more, and men are just trophies in my eyes. (that's why, i don't understand when women date ugly, chopped men who are unemployed and live off of them) i'm genuinely a #womaninmalefields bc my thoughts are exactly like an average man's is, just swap the sexes.