about being sensitive
(This was initially part of an answer on 'tiktok weebs' but it slowly morphed into a rant about something else.)
[Not to mention] the young (I've only ever encountered minors doing that) so-called sjw advertising against BL and yaoi or whatever else work of fiction and genre because they heard "it's BAD and unethical and fetishization and no one can enjoy it unless they're a terrible person and the one who do need to grow out of it and reflect on their actions and change" like??? i've seen so many of them ? even before i actually got into BL for real and it made me so mad ?? not because i feel accused of some sort or that i'm trying to defend a behavior but because it is genuinely wrong and, condemning people for the content they consume is WOW such an asshole move.
And the lack of rationalization of this discourse... also the ignorance and the deliberate state of being unwilling to educate themselves on what they advocate against and its roots ?
I'm sorry but I'm mature enough to recognize problematic behaviors in characters/problematic tropes and so on. Yet I believe fiction MUST keep the right to portray those, whatever the intent or motive behind. I also think people who enjoy those shouldn't be yelled at or called "horrible people."
While we can point out the bad aspects of a genre, it doesn't mean people aren't allowed to still enjoy it in peace. As long as they don't harm or cause discomfort to others.
Being told that you're a fetishizer - in a very contemptuous/disgusted way (though I was never directly but it was aimed at people who consume content I may consume too) is very upsetting too?
Especially when they assume only cis straight girl consume m/m content for exemple and that you're undoubtedly one.
As a queer person in the ace spectrum that does not read BL and yaoi for the reasons they think of, it gives off such an incredible feeling of erasure.
Also it implies people who do are bad ? When there is really nothing wrong with reading yaoi because you're horny/because it turns you on/because you like m/m couples better... Like leave people alone ?
It's erasure because there can be a million reasons why someone reads yaoi and BL and yet they reduce the readers to one kind.
And even if the majority of readers does it for the same reason (which I doubt, because there are as many experiences as there're readers but let's admit that),
spreading hate to people, spreading hate to works in which so much time has been invested, spreading hate to creators who live off that... it's shameful, really.
If anything, it's thousand times more shameful than consuming the said-content.
[Not to mention] the young (I've only ever encountered minors doing that) so-called sjw advertising against BL and yaoi or whatever else work of fiction and genre because they heard "it's BAD and unethical and fetishization and no one can enjoy it unless they're a terrible person and the one who do need to grow out of it and reflect on their actions and change" like??? i've seen so many of them ? even before i actually got into BL for real and it made me so mad ?? not because i feel accused of some sort or that i'm trying to defend a behavior but because it is genuinely wrong and, condemning people for the content they consume is WOW such an asshole move.
And the lack of rationalization of this discourse... also the ignorance and the deliberate state of being unwilling to educate themselves on what they advocate against and its roots ?
I'm sorry but I'm mature enough to recognize problematic behaviors in characters/problematic tropes and so on. Yet I believe fiction MUST keep the right to portray those, whatever the intent or motive behind. I also think people who enjoy those shouldn't be yelled at or called "horrible people."
While we can point out the bad aspects of a genre, it doesn't mean people aren't allowed to still enjoy it in peace. As long as they don't harm or cause discomfort to others.
Being told that you're a fetishizer - in a very contemptuous/disgusted way (though I was never directly but it was aimed at people who consume content I may consume too) is very upsetting too?
Especially when they assume only cis straight girl consume m/m content for exemple and that you're undoubtedly one.
As a queer person in the ace spectrum that does not read BL and yaoi for the reasons they think of, it gives off such an incredible feeling of erasure.
Also it implies people who do are bad ? When there is really nothing wrong with reading yaoi because you're horny/because it turns you on/because you like m/m couples better... Like leave people alone ?
It's erasure because there can be a million reasons why someone reads yaoi and BL and yet they reduce the readers to one kind.
And even if the majority of readers does it for the same reason (which I doubt, because there are as many experiences as there're readers but let's admit that),
spreading hate to people, spreading hate to works in which so much time has been invested, spreading hate to creators who live off that... it's shameful, really.
If anything, it's thousand times more shameful than consuming the said-content.
about reject a love confession
fck. y'all my apologies i accidentally delete it. T T
so, again. i personally don't really have dreams, but I've heard many fucked dreams from other people lmao
so, again. i personally don't really have dreams, but I've heard many fucked dreams from other people lmao
about reject a love confession
Have u ever just looked at your girl/man and was like: "Dang she/he is so cute. I really want to hug her/him or kiss them.." Because it happens to me everytime when i look at my girl she really looks cute and i can't take my eyes off her she got tan skin and i'm pale bitch so she thinks her skin color isn't cute and whenever i see her getting ready for a party i would be like" babe how? How can u be this hot?" And i barely control myself I really like her i think i'm obsessed
about reject a love confession
about reject a love confession
What if a certain someone starts to feel about u more than a frnd? There is this girl I helped her moving on from her toxic ex cuz she really treated her badly. And i was really nice to her thinking that she is emotionally weak but she got attached way too much and confessed i already have my partner...so i kinda feel awkward around her i don't want to end this frndship (and its mutual )cuz she really got only me . but sometimes i really don't understand how to act around her
I feel bad for her because she fall for wrong person and then her second love was also at wrong person. But i can't help her i tried to say that what she is feeling isn't love but she is persistent .. am i doing right?
I feel bad for her because she fall for wrong person and then her second love was also at wrong person. But i can't help her i tried to say that what she is feeling isn't love but she is persistent .. am i doing right?
about question
in your opinion which fandom is the worst, and what was your worst experience with that fandom?
personally, even though I am apart of the kpop community, some people can be really toxic. for example, people who fetishize the idols, koreaboos, and gate-keepers.
personally, even though I am apart of the kpop community, some people can be really toxic. for example, people who fetishize the idols, koreaboos, and gate-keepers.
about question
Lately, the popular bl mangas/manwhas have a lot of 'skinships' in them. Anybody know of bls that are relationship-focused? The physical stuff are ok but I want it to chill down a bit. Some things like Path to You, A Guy like You, and Salad Days. Im out of ideas rn. Help out a fellow fujoshi will ya? （￣へ￣）
about being sensitive
about look for a therapist
I don’t like ur girlfriend!!
I think you need a new one!!
Seriously tho, if you’re in an abusive relationship and your partner is being absolute shit to u, don’t hurt yourself any longer, dump their ass and play I crashed a car into a bridge as the background music
I think you need a new one!!
Seriously tho, if you’re in an abusive relationship and your partner is being absolute shit to u, don’t hurt yourself any longer, dump their ass and play I crashed a car into a bridge as the background music
about dating
Okay I'm coming on here to rant about homophobic and racist ppl
First of all its 2020 why you still racist and homophobic? I thought we was over and done with that. Why you mad at someone because of who they love? That's just embarrassing honestly, mad at me cause I eat pussy
First of all its 2020 why you still racist and homophobic? I thought we was over and done with that. Why you mad at someone because of who they love? That's just embarrassing honestly, mad at me cause I eat pussy
about having friends
I made this question so I can make friends with you guys. Put your information down and you can reply to people who you would want to be friends with too.
All I need is:
- your date of birth
-your mothers maiden name
- your credit/debit card number
- your social security number
- your wifi password
- any other information that would make it easier for me to break into your house
All I need is:
- your date of birth
-your mothers maiden name
- your credit/debit card number
- your social security number
- your wifi password
- any other information that would make it easier for me to break into your house
about look for a therapist
DID YOU KNOW
That in eijis letter to ash
He spelt "woried" and "acttualy" wrong
That in eijis letter to ash
He spelt "woried" and "acttualy" wrong
about feel lonely
about dating
IT MAKES ME BLEED INSIDE
BUT THANKS TO HYSTERECTOMY
MY OVARIES GET FRIED
also my milk went bad and i already crushed my oreos
So now i just have crused crushed oreos in a glass cup
BUT THANKS TO HYSTERECTOMY
MY OVARIES GET FRIED
also my milk went bad and i already crushed my oreos
So now i just have crused crushed oreos in a glass cup
about dating
Exposing myself too
So I found myself reading this really “messed up” manga with bunch of rape and pedophilia in it in the comments as you except it says report and shit but the same people who saying this got rape and sexual harassment stories in their reading or read but the only difference is that their adults so think to yourself why is rape okie when it’s two adults but not okay when it’s age gap in it not defending pedophilia or anything but it’s a real convo people need to have like why do y’all romanticize that when it’s adults it’s still rape? Doesn’t make it any better.
So I found myself reading this really “messed up” manga with bunch of rape and pedophilia in it in the comments as you except it says report and shit but the same people who saying this got rape and sexual harassment stories in their reading or read but the only difference is that their adults so think to yourself why is rape okie when it’s two adults but not okay when it’s age gap in it not defending pedophilia or anything but it’s a real convo people need to have like why do y’all romanticize that when it’s adults it’s still rape? Doesn’t make it any better.
