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any to be hero x fans out there?
like perfection, it's an unnattainable goal to know everything, but it's one of those things where there's virtue and value in the undertaking. journey over destination, so to speak. take your learning opportunities where they come with an open, inquisitive, and curious mind(set).
I'm all about reading, reading, reading. books, articles, etc. someo......
controlling, jealous, and obsessive behaviors that never seem to have lasting consequences after "redemption" for the characters who have them. in general, if a character is shown to not respect their partner/love interest as an independent, autonomous person, I have no reason to believe that they'll respect boundaries and whatnot even if they have......
Men who are hentai or porn addiction is literally the same as girls who are fujoshi or yex/smut brai
this take is lacking in materialist analysis. as obnoxious as a certain brand of fujo/yaoi-obsessed person is, making this comparison and saying they're the same misses how sexuality (as in, sexual behavior/expression and interests) differs between them. considering which group has mass culture and exploitative industries catering to them and the o......
a flag is a communication tool. a basic and common function is signalling if a path is clear (green) or obstructed/hazardous (red).
imo, many people are using "flags" weirdly because it makes more sense to apply it to behaviors and attitudes rather than to a person or character as whole. that's how I saw the concept used, initially, anyways.
it ove......
it sounds like you experience some emotional release/catharsis, or are living vicariously through the actions of those immoral characters, which isn't an unusual thing to do. many people read or otherwise engage with fiction to step outside of themselves and their lives, see through a new and unusual perspective and all that. but however wild and i......
a flag is a communication tool. a basic and common function is signalling if a path is clear (green) or obstructed/hazardous (red).
imo, many people are using "flags" weirdly because it makes more sense to apply it to behaviors and attitudes rather than to a person or character as whole. that's how I saw the concept used, initially, anyways. so this is in terms of attitudes, behaviors and actions
green flags: emotional intelligence (being able to know/identify one's own feelings and recognize them in others), respect for boundaries, willingness to share, communication skills, anything that facilitates a functional relationship
red flags: being controlling, ignoring and violating boundaries, undermining the autonomy of others, superiority complexes, being invested in hierarchies, self-sacrificing or guilt-tripping, anything that leads to an abusive relationship
stuff like that
you can have conflict in a story, even a romantic one, without resorting to abuse and so-called red/black flag characters. it's as simple as characters having different needs and wants in life, or pressure from external forces. but that kind of thing takes actual writing skills and capacity for complex reasoning.
(there's a question about flags that I'm responding to, but it looks like I'm blocked by the op of that)
I'll get to the main point of this post in a second, but I'm mystified by the use of "deprived" here. like, I'm used to seeing it in sentences like "the captive was deprived of adequate food, water, and fresh air" or "neglectful parents deprived a child of an education", so I'm left wondering what the intended word is supposed to be here. op is fee......
I'm always down for new and different approaches in a genre filled with cliches and formulaic stories, so I support your grievance in principle. thinking it over, I think most of the stories I've read and liked gave input from both characters even if it's primarily from the pov of one character. that said, this is a real rabbit hole of a question........
what's obnoxious to me about most omegaverse is how the dire straits of omegas in those stories reflect the status of women IRL, and their oppression is explicitly naturalized and justified with their biological functions in those stories in ways that aren't necessarily true IRL. biology can be quite surprising! things don't always function like we......
speaking as someone who was into adult content when I was a kid, while discouraging such consumption is best practice for any adult who's aware of it, the kid in question won't necessarily listen. direct engagement between adults and minors in that kind of situation should be discouraged, for starters. so while no one can force other people of any ......
when a character has "dressed up" and their partner is starry eyed and going gaga over them but all they did was put on a white button down shirt tucked into black pants and nondescript dress shoes and maaayyybe slicked back their hair. and you could say the over-the-top reaction is warranted because the character doesn't usually dress well and is ......
thanks for bringing this up, because it gets so easily overlooked - or purposely glossed over - whenever these topics come up. defenders of whatever nefarious BS under discussion always want to say "no real human being was harmed" to excuse and wave away any scrutiny of the thing they're doubling down on, without any awareness or cognizance that no......
'Fiction doesn't affect reality' readers be like - Denial is a river in Egypt.
They are struggling with the loss of their internet spaces to talk about creepy shit, they are angry, they feel shortchanged, they think they have been dealt an unfair hand - how dare people judge them on a porn site that they chose exclusively to goon to sketchy shit?......
Oof the amount of times I've had the "it's just fiction" argument, oh my god. To say that fiction doesn't affect reality is crazy. For better or worse, the media we consume hugely impacts the society we live in, including shaping what people see as normal and acceptable. There's a reason people write theses and teach classes on the cultural impact ......
was that post not asking for nuance and explanations of said complexities? or is simply asking any of that an attack on women somehow?
women can be (and often are) misogynistic, to themselves and other people. it came free with the patriarchal system most of us live under. even in patriarchal societies, women have a role to play in maintaining and......
something something, how gender, sexuality, and the concept of sex itself are constructed under heterosexuality -> general rape culture -> kink and sexual fantasies as a coping/processing method/something people are interested in or fascinated by -> the prevalence of rape and dominance/submission dynamics in romance/erotica -> prevalence of rape in......
I'm aware of BL's shoujo roots, so the pretty boys came with the genre, and I don't have a problem with men being pretty or soft or beautiful instead of handsome. I do have a problem with the very narrow range of appearances that they're given. men have a range of appearances and body types, too.
feminine men and twinks exist, and that's not an iss......
regardless of everything else, in the moment, he had physical (close, intimate contact, in a vulnerable position) and emotional leverage (you didn't want to disappoint or "lead him on") over you to get what he wanted despite your wishes.
consent is ongoing and revocable. if person A and person B agree to do actions 1, 2 and 3, that does not mean ......