As a lesbian with many gay friends I strongly dislike most fujoshis. Yaoi is often very fetishizing and tends to romanticize abuse, toxic relationships, ectera. It's just gross to see queer men like,, existing in general and the comments just filled with (usually straight) girls bragging about how much they get off to them. Like they treat gay rela...... reply
Back in 2015, when I started reading BLs, fujoshi was not seen as a bad word. Nowadays people conflate it with fetishizing gay men, because of 'fujoshis' being predatory towards real men(plus the portrayal of fujoshis in anime like Kiss Him Not Me). So I would opt to not use the word if you don't do that bc it conflates you with the negative stereo...... 1 reply
I get this a lot. "YoU aRe FeTiShIzInG gAyS!!1!". First of all, no, I'm not. Just because I like Yaoi/BL doesn't mean I want to be gay and do this. Defending myself is awful, especially when I have to it ALL THE TIME. Yaoi is an amazing genre, and it's tarnished by the fetishizers. Rant over. 1 reply
(LGBT+ member here, lesbian tho) Haha ohhhhh a history lesson, ‘fujoshi’ literally translates to ‘rotten woman’ and the history of the term is that it was coined by misogynistic and homophobic men who believed that if a woman enjoyed BL content, she was rotten aka unmarriable
The term I believe now has been reclaimed by Japanese women and ...... 2 reply
Hi, i am researching for our project and i need to know your opinions about yaoi and fujoshis. I need all of your sides, from the discriminated boys or fujoshis who defend themselves. I am in desperate need of help. People are saying fujoshis and fudanshis are toxic and harmful(I AM NOT STARTING FANDOM WARS) and i need to know the sides of those discriminated by the fujoshis and fudanshis and the sides of the fujoshis that are constantly discriminated by people saying you are fetishizing gay people. Please please please reply
I'd say most people want and need sex in a relationship, but some people don't. Problems only come when someone who wants sex is with someone who doesn't, that relationship I think would not survive. However, what people want in a relationship can change over time and that sometimes makes things difficult.
Sex drive can be affected by a lot of th...... reply
Trust me, no a relationship doesn’t need to involve sex to be a good relationship. I’ve been in a great nine year relationship that’s been completely platonic. My boyfriend is similar in that he doesn’t have much interest in sex and I can’t say I’m the same but that hasn’t kept me from happily being in a relationship with him regardle...... reply
