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how to emotionally distance from parents
for anyone with abusive parents, how do you learn to distance yourself, to not place your value on what they think of you, to avoid all contact with them?
I just want to get away from them and live alone but im in hs right now. im planning on getting a job so I have no reliance on them financially. all they do is scream at me for my grades (lowest is a 95), tell me im not doing enough, and won't make it in life.
has anyone ever had parents like this? please help. logically, I know theyre insane and I shouldn't listen to what they say. emotionally, they're my parents, and my mental health has gotten so bad. once I begin applying for colleges, it'll get so much worse. I feel so scared at home knowing that at any time they'll barge in and scream at me for hours on end
tbh you can't, you can heal from a toxic environment while still being in it. Your best bet is coming up with reasons to be away from them physically (job, group projects that need to be done in someone else's house)
Or try to find something that gives you some sense of escapism, a hobby like listening to music, watching media, reading, anything t...... reply
document everything. record, log, video. some jobs accept working students (depends on your country though) and once you turn 18, get something along the lines of an ETF (again, depends on where you are, for mine this is MP2) this account matures each year and so you have the financial resource checked out. If the abuse escalates to the point of ph...... reply
