Why are some ppl lowkey obsessed with red flag semes ngl

I'm concerned at some of my friends tbh, they said they wanted a man like Jaekyung and wants to be abused and I'm the only one who didn't agree?? Like are you okay-- they started to list more LITERAL rapist MLs that they want as their bf-- no they didn't have trauma or anything that could explain why they behave like this (as far as I know, they were never in a relationship) but just why would you want your man to treat you like shit??

I keep thinking and came up with a conclusion that some of them just think most of these bl relationships are just "rough and sexy" bec tbh in media, sex is usually portrayed as something aggresive = to you feeling apparently more good. Like idk ppl are just horny and think a sex-driven relationship is a "strong relationship".