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How to maintain close friendships if im boring?
I really am a boring person, aswell as quiet and awkward. I dont really go outside often besides for school. My friends don't like what i like (Bl, manhwas, manhuas) while we do have some interests in common like playing some of the same games, watching some of the same animes and shows, there's not alot else.
I dont know how to start a conversation if I dont really have anything to say majority of the time. I know you need to keep talking to each other to maintain a degree of friendship. I dont really have any close friends anymore. I cant talk to people everyday, ill talk to them if I come up with something to talk about or if they talk to me first and I'll just listen to them talk to me about their interests, ill ask questions even if im not interested and (hopefully) look engaged in what they are saying. I'll maybe dm someone once a month if I get into a show or something which they like but other than that I dont get any dms nor do I dm anyone else. Im just wondering if anyone would have any advice for me, I know its dumb to ask this on a reading website but I genuinely dont know where else to go.
I feel the same, it's not that we're boring it's just that we still haven't met someone who just super vibes with us and has a lot of the same interests as ours so we missed out on a lot of trends or inside jokes. I don't have advice cause I also don't know what to say, I'm not hiding my true self but ppl would be surprised that I'm silly and curse...... reply
become a person you actually like by being honest about who you are & what you like instead of throwing your hands up & claiming being boring as your personality . once you become a person you like, you will speak up & go after people you want to talk to without being afraid of rejection. how will you find real friends that are worth being close to...... reply
i had one friend who'd ask philosophical questions a lot and we'd go back and forth about that;; there's also just talking about random crap in your day, what you ate, how's the traffic, what your roommate did, what your professor did, if you're getting sick, if something happened in class;; and with some friends i'd talk about the recent news or p...... reply
You're SO REAL. I know it's tough, but people really only actually have 1 or 2 real friends. I would say that I barely even had acquaintances till late in college.
My actual friends and I only catch up about once a month because we genuinely care about each other's lives, but we don't try to force conversations. They know every detail of my life,...... reply
Escape into literature and eventually find people that like what you read in book clubs or online spaces, I read just about anything so it isn't hard to find a common genre. I guess my advice is to diversify your interests and enjoy it, talk about plots or views on the writing or whatever it is you like. Best way to maintain close friendships is to...... reply
Watch '' the Power of Quiet '' or read it, it's so freeing !! Maybe you'll have a thing or two to say about being an introvert after that ! :-)
There is probably more introverts in your direct surronding than you think ! We just aren't very loud.
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Also, over the years I have been taking note of the conversations that I am feeling super passio...... reply
Sometimes you just gotta fake it till you make it, but not too much. Cause personally, it takes me months, or even years, to warm up to a person. So I just gotta fake it till I make it, it's a bit exhausting so make sure you choose your friends well. Choose people who you think wouldn't tire you out and aren't too different from you. I mean same, m...... 1 reply
I would really like to give some advice, but the thing is... I'm EXACTLY the same. Literally, this could very well be something I wrote myself, word for word. The fact that my overthinking and anxiety are gradually worsening over the years isn't exactly helping... so yeah, while I can't give you advice I need for myself I just hope that knowing you...... 1 reply
Nah this was me fr in high school, like I kinda resented my friends bc I was the weirdo of the group (they were kinda judgey and weird about it) thay said my personality is too much, but aint that intersting, I just like to talk a lot about any random thing that comes to mind.
I had a friend who really was into art and anime so I talked to her the...... 1 reply
