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about be lgbtq
I am queer, and aware of the fact that I like women, whether I am bisexual, pansexual or a lesbian, is something I am still trying to figure out.That’s beside the point, but I want to know what other LGBTQ+ people think of yaoi and yuri.
Personally I read yaoi (and BL) despite barely having an attraction to men (maybe even not at all). Yaoi is usually “made for straight women” and yuri is “made for straight men” as we already know. So I thought I’d clear out some things first
I feel like reading about heterosexual relationships makes me feel weird about myself, but I don’t have any problem with straight people or heterosexuality. It’s just in hetero romances people never face “gay problems” like figuring yourself out, feeling “abnormal”, and coming out.
Not only that but I feel like I want to see couples that I almost never openly see be in a relationship. Straight people are everywhere in reality, and feel like BL is an escape from that.
I do sometimes like reading GL (I don’t read on here though), because it’s like “oh, that’s cute, I can’t wait to get a girlfriend too”, but I can’t ever really find “good” yuri. And with yaoi it’s more like “I’m never going to do experience this because I am not a man” so I can’t relate to it so it feels good to see relationships that do not relate to me. But obviously BL/yaoi are fiction and no where near like real life so it’s just for fun (except the rapey shit, I feel bad and don’t really enjoy that).
I wanted to know if other LGBTQ+ people felt the same or if you have had other experiences with yaoi/yuri. I just want to know more about people that I have some things in common with
Personally I read yaoi (and BL) despite barely having an attraction to men (maybe even not at all). Yaoi is usually “made for straight women” and yuri is “made for straight men” as we already know. So I thought I’d clear out some things first
I feel like reading about heterosexual relationships makes me feel weird about myself, but I don’t have any problem with straight people or heterosexuality. It’s just in hetero romances people never face “gay problems” like figuring yourself out, feeling “abnormal”, and coming out.
Not only that but I feel like I want to see couples that I almost never openly see be in a relationship. Straight people are everywhere in reality, and feel like BL is an escape from that.
I do sometimes like reading GL (I don’t read on here though), because it’s like “oh, that’s cute, I can’t wait to get a girlfriend too”, but I can’t ever really find “good” yuri. And with yaoi it’s more like “I’m never going to do experience this because I am not a man” so I can’t relate to it so it feels good to see relationships that do not relate to me. But obviously BL/yaoi are fiction and no where near like real life so it’s just for fun (except the rapey shit, I feel bad and don’t really enjoy that).
I wanted to know if other LGBTQ+ people felt the same or if you have had other experiences with yaoi/yuri. I just want to know more about people that I have some things in common with
!!!The question is at the bottom if you dont wanna read through the whole thing!!!
So about two years ago, I started to feel strange feelings towards my best friend. Best friend switched schools, and the feelings started to die down a little. After maybe a year, I started noticing those feelings. I cryed myself to sleep each and every night, feeling like there is something very wrong with me. I started to feel atracted to my female classmates, but I just brushed it off as admiration. But I quickly found out that that was garbage, because I often found myself daydreaming about having a girlfriend that would love me and stuff. At that point I couldnt hold it in myself anymore. I decided to come out to a friend of mine that I truly trust. She was extreamly supportive and later turned out to me pan! The next day, she gave me rainbow sour gummy worms, which is my favourite candy! I came out to my other friend that I thaught I could trust, but turns out she is an extreamly unsupportive female dog. She literally thinks that I am faking this for attention or something. About two months later of coming out to my dear friend I felt the need to come out to my mom but at the same time I didnt want to because I felt scared that my mom, a person that I see as a best friend, would suddenly turn against me. I ran up to her and told her that I wanna tell her something important. After that Nothing came out of my mouth. I decided that Id rather text her. After I texted her I imidiatly ran into the shower and had a massive anxiety attack. I started to hyperventilate to the point I thaught I was gonna pass out. Tears started to roll down my face. It was one of the most painful and scariest moments of my life. After an hour my mom came to my room an spoke with me. I cryed. I cryed a lot. My mom supported me even though I saw in her eyes that she wasnt a fan of it. Its not like she is homophobic or anything. She was and still is extreamly worried for me. Then I realized that I have to come out to my extreamly homophobic father.
Finally for my question. Any tips on coming out to a homophobic dad without him flipping out and disowning me? I know that he will find out. But I want to tell him myself rather than him accidentally finding out by himself. But the thing is, I dont know how.. Woow I wonder if life stories are allowed lol(￣∇￣"). Anyways if you read through the whole thing, then thank you. I hope I will recieve any answers to my question(๑•ㅂ•)و✧
So about two years ago, I started to feel strange feelings towards my best friend. Best friend switched schools, and the feelings started to die down a little. After maybe a year, I started noticing those feelings. I cryed myself to sleep each and every night, feeling like there is something very wrong with me. I started to feel atracted to my female classmates, but I just brushed it off as admiration. But I quickly found out that that was garbage, because I often found myself daydreaming about having a girlfriend that would love me and stuff. At that point I couldnt hold it in myself anymore. I decided to come out to a friend of mine that I truly trust. She was extreamly supportive and later turned out to me pan! The next day, she gave me rainbow sour gummy worms, which is my favourite candy! I came out to my other friend that I thaught I could trust, but turns out she is an extreamly unsupportive female dog. She literally thinks that I am faking this for attention or something. About two months later of coming out to my dear friend I felt the need to come out to my mom but at the same time I didnt want to because I felt scared that my mom, a person that I see as a best friend, would suddenly turn against me. I ran up to her and told her that I wanna tell her something important. After that Nothing came out of my mouth. I decided that Id rather text her. After I texted her I imidiatly ran into the shower and had a massive anxiety attack. I started to hyperventilate to the point I thaught I was gonna pass out. Tears started to roll down my face. It was one of the most painful and scariest moments of my life. After an hour my mom came to my room an spoke with me. I cryed. I cryed a lot. My mom supported me even though I saw in her eyes that she wasnt a fan of it. Its not like she is homophobic or anything. She was and still is extreamly worried for me. Then I realized that I have to come out to my extreamly homophobic father.
Finally for my question. Any tips on coming out to a homophobic dad without him flipping out and disowning me? I know that he will find out. But I want to tell him myself rather than him accidentally finding out by himself. But the thing is, I dont know how.. Woow I wonder if life stories are allowed lol(￣∇￣"). Anyways if you read through the whole thing, then thank you. I hope I will recieve any answers to my question(๑•ㅂ•)و✧
