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Hello, asker here!
I just wanted to say that when I wrote this I was in a really bad mood. I had just seen an entire thread on how fem gay men in yaoi where gross and basically women. And a lot of people agreed so I wanted to vent a little.
ALSO, I didn't know that fujoshi was a general term for all female yaoi r...... 13 reply
(Gay guy)
Honestly this is such an open question. To me it entirely depends on the woman as an individual.
However as a very broad generalisation I think that women are easier to talk to than straight men, and are much more expressive in their emotions. Particularly emotions such as softness, kindness, and compassion. Of course, generalising aga...... 2 reply
Ok so I've seen a lot of comments here that either pique my interest, or just really annoy me as a gay man, and they are more often than not from straight women reading yaoi.
So, I was hoping people could answer some questions.
1) Why do a lot of fujoshis wish that they were gay men, it's really fucking hard to be a gay man. We don't just revolve around butt sex. Is it because of the difficulties of being a woman and dealing with straight men?
2) Why are fem characters in yaoi so looked down on and called stereotypes? I'm a fem gay man, I wear makeup,I have long hair etc, but I'm still a man. I am not a woman nor do I wish to be one.
3) Why are so many fujoshis obsessed with the uke - seme dynamic? Like fem and skinny automatically means uke and vice versa, and god forbid there be switches. Gay relationships are not like that IRL, and it irks me when people say it's gross.
4) Why do you personally read yaoi? Like I read it, but mostly AI, because there's so little gay media? To me it just feels a bit odd, and some obsess over it to the point that it's like when straight guys obsess over lesbian porn.
5) This isn't a question, so much as just asking people to please stop referring to IRL gay men and relationships as yaoi. We aren't porn for you.
Sorry if some of these probably sounded a bit aggressive, and tbh they are, because I'm getting frustrated with some repeated comments I see. Particularly about fem gay men.
did read 1000 manga or more
did read 1000 manga or more
