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First part. https://www.mangago.me/thing/about/670188/

Many thanks to the replies. Just wanna add that we do not have any bad blood as friends. In fact I would say I like her as a friend. I just don't like her as a roommate. I never knew these could be possible simultaneously but here we are. Sometimes you can't have it all, I guess.

In terms of setting boundaries, yes, I agree we should have prior to moving in together. However, I would like to add that as we lived together I do make clear boundaries about what I want (and if she said anything she wanted me to do, I will accommodate as best I can). I used to remind her not to do etc etc, and she will do as I remind her, then just subtly go back to her usual living style.

For example I told her to clean up after herself in the shower because I didn't like having to clean up after her (she clogs the drain with hair and slimy soapy residue I prefer not to touch). And I will also clean up after myself so she doesn't have to worry about the shower being dirty when she goes in. She said sorry, cleaned up after herself for a couple days, then slowly stopped.

I've since given up trying to tell her. If I've said it once or twice and it still goes ignored then I'm going to take that as a no, she's unwilling to. Because how hard is it to follow through the first few times, especially if it's about having decent bathroom etiquette. I'm not even asking for the moon here, just to clean up after ourselves and it feels like I'm overthinking. We've basically gone past setting up boundaries, since it goes ignored anyway and I'm tired of repeating myself.

I don't think this will break our friendship. She's not the type to fuss over something like this. She lives pretty freely (as noted by previous statements about her irresponsibilities). Plus we never planned to live together forever, just that we will live together. It just so happen our plans only worked for a year. I'd be surprised if she made this a big deal. We tried, it didn't work out. That's that. I hope to continue our friendship after I move out. And I'll let her know that.

Earlier this year my friend and I decided to move in together. 7 months later I regret ever doing so. I just don't understand her mentality. She prioritizes the little things that makes her happy in life while de-prioritizing the things that should be important. Such as rent. Or having a car.

Ever since her car got repossessed, I've been obligated to drive her around during my free time. This includes sending her to work and picking her up from work.

I just don't understand what we're doing anymore. Why are we living like this. Are we living together or am I a live-in maid?

She and I wanted to move out to be more independent. We can't afford to live on our own (this economy killing me istg) which is why we decided the next best thing was to be housemates and split bills. But with how everything has been going, she is not independent at all.

Even though we're friends, I just feel it isn't my problem to be responsible for her. She should have thought things out more carefully before suggesting we move in together. She should have known she wouldn't be able to pay the rent AND pay her car bills. It's like she acted on impulse now I gotta pay the price with her.

And me too. I'm not faultless I admit. I should have known better than to trust her when the first red flag was she asked me to cover her portion of the deposit fee and first months rent in order for us to secure the apartment in our names. I shouldn't have covered for her. I should have said no, because if she wasn't responsible enough to have money to secure the place, why did I think she would be responsible enough to have money to pay for the place once we actually start living there. She is living beyond her means, I should have seen this coming. I should have trusted my gut when it started feeling all queasy the moment she asked me to cover. I was stupid. I was naive. I assumed we would both be able to do our part and that hasn't been the case. But I've learned my lesson.

I feel like living on our own shouldn't be this difficult? I just don't understand why she insists on making her life so hard.

It's exhausting, it's disappointing. I'm done. I'm planning to move back home when the lease ends. Just 2 and half more months before the lease reweal comes. I'm going to smack that with a big NOPE.