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I might be gender fluid HELP owo
Okay, I’ve classified myself as a “fujoshi” for most of my days of reading bl, and I thought my interest in bl/mlm was becoming fetish-like. I’m between bi and pan rn (never dated so-) and I thought that’s why I always imagine myself as a dude getting it on with another dude. HOWEVER (here’s the kicker) for the first time I clearly thought to myself while looking at a panel of a uke being cute “I wish I had a peen so I could...ya know” etc etc. I mean having one biologically attached to my body. And then everything fell into place: - I already get misgendered ( because of my deep voice) and baggy clothes combo, but I’ve never really cared, in fact I didn’t dislike or feel off put by it ever -a lot of days I think “I wish I had a male -like body” but there’s this weird debate in my mind cause I also love my female body as it is. - but the reason I can’t bring myself to a conclusion is because I feel that I may just have a prolonged liking to bl that spurred these thoughts, rather than me actually being gender fluid. ┗( T﹏T )┛
i can feel a whole flood of "i wouldn't be able to help UGH" bc the people on this site are allergic to kindness. to the original poster, i wanna just say that sometimes i feel kind of like that, and you're totally valid either way.
personally, i too won't really mind being misgendered (or the like) even though i still love and am proud of being a...... 1 reply
Well in my opinion you don't always have to label yourself. I feel the same way as you and often get told stuff for it but in my opinion just go with the flow and don't let others tell you what are or should be. Hopefully this helps in some way (￣∇￣") 1 reply
Well, I can't tell you what you are because only you'll know! Just keep in mind that there is no rush and instead of focusing on labels, just think about if you most feel comfortable being referred to as him/her/they/etc. it's okay if it differs from day to day. Everyone is confused about their identity at one point, just know that even if you say ...... reply
I feel the same way like sometimes I wanna be a boy but I still love my female body. Some people just don't care if somebody misgenders them. Like me i have use any pronouns so if somebody used he/him for me i wouldnt really care. Being gender fluid is like being in between a boy and a girl like non binary ur not a boy but ur not a girl. Gender flu...... reply
Coming from a non binary "girl", it's not always necessary to put a label on yourself because this sort of stuff is difficult to fully understand. But I can recommend using he/him or whatever pronouns when like referring to yourself or ask a close friend to refer to you in that way. That can kind of help with figuring out your stance on your gender...... 1 reply
honestly, sometimes i think i am gender fluid too!
like, everytime i go on omegle on video call, or meet a new person in real life, every single person i meet says either "you look like a boy" or "are you a boy or a girl" which doesn't make me necessarily mad, but i still correct them either way
and yeah, sometimes i wish i had a dick too or i was ...... reply
You need to take bl out of this situation - it's purely fictional and it shouldn't be that big of an influence on your gender. Ukes are not realistic to irl mlm.
If you were to to think of yourself as a guy without thinking abt ukes/sexual scenarios, how would you feel? Do you only want to have sex if you have a dick?
What are the reasons you want...... reply
