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Is it ok for me to read BL?
Ok I have a genuine question, as someone who is bisexual and gender-fluid as In I see myself as he/she/they meaning I see myself as a woman and man (and in between or sometimes none) is it fetishizing for me to read BL? I also read GL but no one ever talks about it so but anyway I’m genuinely confused because people say it’s fetishizing gay men to like yaoi as a straight woman, but as someone who is a woman and a man is it wrong?(when I say BL I mean the whole category not just yaoi)
If you don’t ship people in real life (like 2 K-pop idols together), if you don’t want to be a man to experience the gay experience, if you don’t see the gay couples in BL as the same as the gay couples in real life, then you are good.
It doesn’t matter who you are, anyone can read BL! As long you ain’t a weirdo 1 reply
I can’t believe this question is still being asked… the simple answer is no, as long as don’t let it get to your head. Reading yaoi itself is fine, it’s not bothering anyone, but I feel like it can create false narratives in people’s minds about how gay relationships are, when in reality it’s nothing like that… especially if you’re ...... reply
literally, anyone can read what they want unless it's illegal. People shouldn't dictate what others read. That has happened numerous times in society and the outcome is never good. I don't want to debate ( before someone brings up a stupid point) because yall can't control my eyes or anyone else's anyway sooo... reply
If you stick to decent stories that depict gay men as actual people, you'll be fine.It seems like you have a decent amount of self awareness to recognize that fetishization could be an issue, but if you ever lose that, just ask yourself; would I be comfortable if people of my minority group are being seen in the same light? reply
